27 F single. I don’t have the desire to date anymore and don’t care if I find love. Is it okay I’m content with my life?

[Anonymous]

I (27 F) have been single for 2 years. This year 2026, will make 3 in the fall. My last long term relationship ended because my ex was a serial cheater and was using me for money sadly. We were together for almost 3 years and nearly engaged. I took a year to work on myself after that. I didn’t go on dating apps or look for men. I focused a lot heavily on work and spending time with family and friends. Most of the time, I have bad luck with love. I am an average woman. Not a 10 but probably a 6.5 out of 10. I have zero kids, and I’ve never been married. My only baggage is I’ve suffered with depression and self harm but that was way back when I was 17-21. My only other flaw is I can’t have my own biological children because of medical reasons but I still dream of being a mom and adopting. Anyways, as I’ve learned to love myself more, I’ve gotten content being alone and not caring if I find love or not. I’m more introverted, I have 2 guy friends but it’s just that and nothing more. I’m almost 30 and I am well aware the hope is dying down but I don’t feel the need to settle because most people don’t appreciate me. I always am generous, loyal, caring, and there for the guy I date or in a relationship with but I’ve always been the one to give but never receive. I feel like at this point I’m too comfortable just doing my own thing and love is hopeless. I’m always happy for people who are married or in a happy relationship but I just don’t see it happening for me. I’m not mad or sad, I think I’ve just accepted maybe that life is for me.

[sawno]

The answer to the title is no, its not ok because you're lying to yourself.

If you were content with your life you wouldn't be posting this, you wouldn't give so much context as to why you have little hope and its hard. The entire description of the post says that you feel hopeless, not happy. You say your not mad and sad, I can believe that. But can you say you aren't numb and beaten down from it all?

To me nothing about it reads like your content, but that the burden of trying became to much and your just settling for the alternative. If you want to do that that's on you, there's nothing wrong with it if that is truly what you wish for.

But I feel like your reason for posting this was to hear that you should keep trying, that love will come. I didn't see a reason in your post why its not possible. The not being able to have children actually works in two different directions. Not every guy will want children so to them that won't be a deal breaker. But it does mean that the whole race against the biological clock thing isn't as much of a factor for you which actually gives you more time to find someone, and the guys you date won't fear that the relationship would have to be rushed for the sake of the fertility window.

If you wanna stop trying to find a guy by all means take it easy, but don't close your heart when he arrives anyway. I think you would love it when someone shows you the love you deserved all this time.

[Zack-Bann]

I don’t get why you need us to tell you that it’s ok.


If you truly are happy with your life choices you wouldn’t second guess them


Nothing wrong with choosing celibacy
No one should be forced into a relationship


But choosing to be alone because you think you have no other option is not the same thing
It’s sad. Because it’s not true.


Maybe no one in your circles is an ideal partner but you can still meet a total stranger and have a romantic experience


But it takes being open to it.
And putting in a little effort in your social life.

[DishLady]

If you don't care then no one else's opinion matters whether they think it is or isn't ok...

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well whatever floats your boat, dating is for people who can't be by themselves, being alone isn't so bad it's just after a while you want something new but if you've already had your moments then it is what it is, remaining single at the very least until you find someone worth it isn't so bad

[Alex-Snow]

Do not worry about what others think. It is ur body and ur choice. Do you miss sex or companionship? Does masturbation help without a guy around?

[Asker]

I don’t care about physical touch as much anymore unless it means something you know? Physical touch is my love language in a relationship, but I don’t wanna give it away unless the other person is gonna value it in return and respects me as I would them. I was a virgin till the age of 22 and throughout the years sex would be in seasons depending on when I felt comfortable with a guy but my body count is no more than 4.

[Alex-Snow]

Nothing wrong with a body count of 4. It is just a number. Wait for the right guy at the right time in ur life

[20yearsolder]

It's your life, whatever you choose is perfectly okay. You do you

[Anonymous]

Why do you need assurance from other people on this? If it suits you then you don't need other people's blessing. I've been single for about 50 years and it suits me just fine. It's always better to be alone for the right reasons than in a relationship for the wrong ones. I wouldn't discourage anyone from being in a relationship. But if you choose singlehandedly just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons.

[Anonymous]

I'm starting to accept being alone forever too. I wish I could find someone, but it doesn't seem likely at this point

[Anonymous]

I don't recommend that; having been single for 22 years. It gets lonely fast.

[Asker]

I’m not closed off completely to love , I just feel like my hope has died down and I’ve gotten almost too comfortable with my own company and I know not all men are bad either, I have some amazing male friends like I said. I just am going with life and I’m fine if I die alone lol but I’m not gonna force love to happen you know?

[Anonymous]

We are in same track. i also can't be married due to medical reasons. i may be understand your pain

[Staximus]

Why don't you marry one of your guy friends

[Asker]

Both of them are in a relationship and I respect that 100%

[Asker]

one has joked about us dating before he got with his girlfriend and he said I was beautiful and so kind but he sees me more as a sister and it was funny because I also see him like family too but he’s great