My ex came back, but I don’t know what we are?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I had been broken up for 6 months, and he came back to me right before Christmas with a very casual how are you? We’ve seen each other 2x now, and of course have been intimate, he slept over just the other night. We haven’t had any conversation about our breakup and I’m afraid to have it because I don’t want to make him feel pressured. He’s an avoidant and I’m anxious. I don't know if he’s seeing other girls, he did create a new bumble profile when he messaged me (he swiped yes on me) but I don't know what he’s doing, or more importantly, WHO he is doing. I know he has a new job and he’s very busy, often getting off at 8pm and then gym and then home to sleep. I know he’s a good person, so I would hope he’s not having sex with me and others, but I don't know. We don’t text much until he reaches out to do something, and I don’t want to bother him so I don’t text him, I did yesterday and he texted me back late in the evening after he was off. I’m just really scared to make any mistakes or confront him about what he wants from me because I don’t want him to see how much he affects me, I was crying the entire 6 months we weren’t together, or how much I love him and want us to work. But the uncertainty of what he wants with me is eating at me.

[Blitterflicker]

It doesn’t seem like he wants anything with you relationship wise, because if he did he would have made that clear by now. Men can sleep with anyone, it doesn’t mean they have feelings or want anything more- it’s the sad truth. Please don’t carry on being intimate with him, if you need answers then ask those questions, have an honest conversation but no more intimacy. Not unless he decides to commit to you again which based on his behaviour seems unlikely at this point. Men are not afraid to chase women, or has those conversations, ESPECIALLY if you’ve gotten to the point of being intimate already, I really don’t think it would happen if it hasn’t already. But like I said, get your answers and closure for your own sake, if that’s what will help you understand and move on.

[HollyK21]

This isn’t going to end well. You’re too afraid of chasing him off to ask the right questions and by the time you work up the nerve you’re going to be crushed by being reminded that he’s your ex.

[Anonymous]

You don't know? But you just said he's your ex...

[Abbycado]

He’s your ex. You just said it.

[itsannalee]

He became an ex for a reason.

[Danny_dan92]

What you are is fuck buddies.

[In_Trance]

He's your ex. It ended for a reason