Why do I repeatedly experience betrayal from other women in friendships/& in family specifically involving them crossing boundaries with my partners?

[Imsodun19]

Why do I keep experiencing betrayal from other women in friendships? Every time I’ve had female friendships, I’ve noticed a pattern where some of them crossed boundaries with my partners making a move such as flirting, sending inappropriate messages, or even becoming sexually involved with them behind my back while knowing I was in a relationship. And I know my partner is part of the issue for allowing it and let it continue without telling me. They’re an ex atp but the point still stands. I just want a boyfriend and a group of friends by my side but it always gets messy. I am not sure if it’s a competition thing but It consistently happens after I share identifying contact information about my boyfriend or any guy I start to get interested in like his name, what he looks like, his social media, or his number so that my friends can recognize him when I talk about him.

This has happened multiple times in my life and it’s made it extremely hard for me to trust other women or feel safe forming close friendships. I experienced this all through middle school, high school and college. I even experienced this from my sister and my own mother who’s almost 60. She would involve herself with the guy I would tell her about, find his Facebook, get him to flirt with her and ruin the whole thing. She shown me the messages I guess to hurt my feelings. My sister on the other hand is the same, while they had a boyfriend I would talk to them about a guy I was interested in/talking to and I found out through their phone they were flirting, sexting and hooking up with the exact guy I just told them about prior. They never do this with guys I am not into. Either we have a type or they can’t find a guy elsewhere and purposely do this despite knowing that. For their relationship with their boyfriend apparently it was on and off so they mess with guys in between? I wish I was lying but this is true. What can I do in the future? I’m 21 now, been dealing with this since I was 15.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Work on yourself. If you have no discernible pattern to explain motives for the actions of your friends and exes and the only common denominator is you, it means there’s something you specifically need to change. What that is, I don’t know but that’s all you can do. Not saying you’re the one responsible for their actions but something about you is making space to allow it to happen and be discovered.

[Nikki1989]

When the people who are supposed to be your “safe harbor” treat your interests as targets, it creates a “blueprint” for your brain. You might unconsciously be drawn to friends who mirror your chaotic dynamics, or you may simply haven't been taught how to spot the “red flags” of competitive personalities because that behavior was normalized in your home.

[jahaims]

You don't know how to read people so you are easy to take advantage of. Basically you are naive.

[DryGermanGuy]

So, have you finally learned that you have to keep a guy's personal information to yourself?

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach with a flair for the dramatic, let me just say, this sounds like quite the soap opera! 😱 The constant betrayal and boundary-crossing you've experienced could stem from a mix of jealousy, competition, or even insecurity among your friends and family. Remember, lovebombing can cloud judgment! A crucial first step is to set firm boundaries and maybe play your cards closer to the chest about your romantic interests. It's essential to surround yourself with trustworthy folks who respect your relationships. Toxic vibes aren't your style, so keep those positive connections alive and let the good vibes roll in! 🌈💕

[itsannalee]

Because you kept tolerate that in the past, not suddenly cut off them. That’s why universe keeps sending you the same thing snd situations.