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This cute girl started recently and she is quite nice. I didn’t think too much initially when she was presented (maybe that she is cute but that’s all). But the past couple of months I found that she has a really cool personality. Really nice, smart, sense of humour. She remembered some details for me even tho we are in different departments. We joke around. We had a very nice conversation about her hometown while travelling from work once and it seemed that she enjoyed our brief time then. However I never really though anything for my colleagues ever. For me they are just colleagues. I am kinda one of the cool colleagues with whom you can always talk to and get help and people usually expect me to do something in a convo. But here I am wondering after I kinda got nervous talking to her the other day.. heart pumping, weird. There is this one colleague who gives her a lot of attention and sits next to her. They joke around and stuff. Even gave her “jokingly” a “my-work-wife” bracelet. Yesterday I got a notification for her profile in Facebook. Was wondering if should just add her (I rarely add coworkers). I can talk shit in front of people for hours, but when it comes to the romantic side of things, I am kinda weak. So maybe just sit on my ass and pass? I have enough work and sh*t to ignore her but I find myself thinking…maybe she is just a good person and I shouldn’t mix things (today she even gave me free lasagna that she made for some cook-off they were doing at her department…talk about the way to a man’s hearth is his stomach.) So continue talking to her, add her on Fb and plan to ask her out?

I have never gotten a second chance after a romantic screw up.

My screw ups were usually verbal. For example there was a girl I was having a fling with 2 years ago. She was cute af but her legs were a bit too briskly from not regularly shaving. I didn’t dare mention anything the first two times we hooked up. However before the third time I tried to tactfully ask her to smooth up a bit for our next hang out. She got pissed & that was the end of it. I tried apologizing a week later (despite her reaction being a bit over the top). She seemingly forgave me but we never met up again.

In my more serious and long term relationships I usually got axed for not communicating well enough over problems. Not saying women can be a unnecessary pain in ass at time. We all know that. But we have to hear them out whether we like it or not at times. However I had to learn a few hard lessons on that one. Still though I have never in my life had a girl follow up weeks or months later after she initially decided to cut it off saying she had second thoughts.

Anyway I personally believe women overall get more second chances than men for romantic screw ups. Especially in the western world. Even more especially if the man & woman are in “the same league”. Men are taught to endure more crap. Maybe sometimes it’s worth it to be patient but other times it’s pathetic (e. g. taking back a cheater). There are exceptions when women tolerate way more bs then they should if they are dating a guy way out of their league. Also some women sadly tolerate horrific abuse but stick around because they have some sort of sick twisted masochinistic pleasure from that bullshit (another topic). But overall they have less tolerance for screw ups as vice versa in my opinion

But in all the rom coms I (once in a blue moon) watched growing up there is a common storyline of the guy making a mistake but later getting a second chance and/or proving himself. But I rarely if ever see that happen in real life.