Guys, Why do guys never chase me?

[Anonymous]

I’m around 20. People say I’m pretty and cute. I was second most voted when people in my major voted for queen to represent the major at school. The thing is since when I became a teenager and started to have awareness of romantic feelings, not a single guy has ever chased me or confessed to me. At first, I thought I was not attractive enough to get people interested in me. But I later heard from my friend’s boyfriend that I was pretty popular since I was cute at that time. I did not have any idea and no one ever told me. If so, why does no guy approach me or even show interest in me? Is there something like signaling or any similar things that makes them approach you? I want to know how that works. How do guys think when it comes to this kind of thing?

[Lionman95]

First of all many guys these days stopped chasing girls so you´re probably not the only one who hasn´t been chased by a guy. The issue these days is that a lot of guys are unsure whether they are still supposed to do the first move and the chase and they don´t know how since their fear is to be called a pervert or a creep for not realising a woman isn´t interested.
I don´t know why a guy doesn´t approach you, there could be a variety of reasons from everybody thinking you´re taken or maybe there is just no place to approach you. Have you ever thought of asking your friends for help how did they find a boyfriend. Otherwise I would try to figure out why people considered popular but not interesting enough for a relationship and therefore I´d to work on your reputation. Like what do people think of you. Not in any way to turn into a people pleaser but to figure out a way that guys around you see you as interesting for a relationship.

[lorenzomichael]

That is kind of strange. Ig you're pretty and have a nice figure, I don't see why any guy wouldn't approach you. Are you friendly and do you smile at guys? Because of there could be a thousand men in a room and one woman. And us guys will spot you quick. You got to remember us guys sometimes are pigs. But we are men we can't help who We are. First thing that pops into our minds is sexual shit when we see a new woman for the first time. Remember fine and pretty are not the same. We checked you out before we look at your face. You might have a shitty look on your face. Which we take as she's probably a bitch. So they don't go after you. Because up to this point this is all we know. But if you have an attractive, inviting face and if you smile. that might wipe away the she looks like a bitch thought from our heads and take it a step further we'll approach you.

[BadApple69]

It’s my experience that guys are cowards. Especially now days…. To be honest having to ask to kiss, hold hands, touch a person at all any location (not talking sexual places), and of course “would it be ok with you if I had sex with you”. These are ridiculously hard times to date.
With the sex thing now days girls are willing to have sex but then after say “no I really didn’t want it” and then the guy ends up in court.
My suggestion is this, if you see a guy you are interested in you go for it. You approach him and tell him you are interested. Feminism, and the MeToo movement have turned the modern man into jellyfish.
So to you and other woman out there… take charge because men are afraid to make a move.


Now I’ll sit back and wait for the negative comments…

[Aeropitz]

Your correct

[Anonymous]

No idea why guys don't seem to chase you. Or you just feel like they are not chasing you.

In modern society, most men don't dare to take iniative thanks to all the girls who falsely accuse us of harassing, sexual abuse, false rape claims etc. Men are getting labeled as creeps or harrassers quite fast.

At least that's how I see it. And that's one of the reasons I stopped even wanting an relationship. One small-minded girl and you will be labeled as creep or harasser for your whole life. Especially thanks to the LGBT snowflakes.

[Staximus]

If you act like you're not interested then most guys will not be interested, unless they are one of those dirtbags that didn't take no for an answer. You don't have to throw yourself at a guy, just be social. Make an attempt to get to know them and go hang out with them.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

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first you have to ask yourself if you're even approachable. If you're running around with an attitude, are not out often or play hard to get, of course not many guys chase you. Second, why dont you approach guys yourself

[LiamS95]

I'd have to get to know you somewhat and see a poc to give an honest assessment and opinion. I think most girls are attractive if a guy gets to know them and bring attractive doesn't necessarily have to be just physical attractiveness.

[Kaneki05]

Just means guys don't want to chase because chasing is awkward.

[Doktorpete]

I assume you dont properly know how to use your hide intentios of being chased

[ProbablyClueless]

It's a cultural thing. A lot of guys your age simply don't think it's worth the effort to pursue women.

[Anonymous]

Me Too ruined the chase. Now you have to be direct or everyone is too scared to act.

[Starrrboy]

Maybe they think you're already taken...