So I have this cute coworker. Never mixed work and love. How to proceed?

[Anonymous]

This cute girl started recently and she is quite nice. I didn’t think too much initially when she was presented (maybe that she is cute but that’s all). But the past couple of months I found that she has a really cool personality. Really nice, smart, sense of humour. She remembered some details for me even tho we are in different departments. We joke around. We had a very nice conversation about her hometown while travelling from work once and it seemed that she enjoyed our brief time then. However I never really though anything for my colleagues ever. For me they are just colleagues. I am kinda one of the cool colleagues with whom you can always talk to and get help and people usually expect me to do something in a convo. But here I am wondering after I kinda got nervous talking to her the other day.. heart pumping, weird. There is this one colleague who gives her a lot of attention and sits next to her. They joke around and stuff. Even gave her “jokingly” a “my-work-wife” bracelet. Yesterday I got a notification for her profile in Facebook. Was wondering if should just add her (I rarely add coworkers). I can talk shit in front of people for hours, but when it comes to the romantic side of things, I am kinda weak. So maybe just sit on my ass and pass? I have enough work and sh*t to ignore her but I find myself thinking…maybe she is just a good person and I shouldn’t mix things (today she even gave me free lasagna that she made for some cook-off they were doing at her department…talk about the way to a man’s hearth is his stomach.) So continue talking to her, add her on Fb and plan to ask her out?

Yeah why not

Hell NO

[SueShe]

You never mixed work and love and that is good. You actually should never mix both because it only leads to problems that you could simply avoid.

Even though she works in a different department, the end result is the same. It will start creating tensions with other co-workers because of jealousy issues and the work environment and the quality of your work will suffer from it.

I understand that you have a sudden crush on this girl but I believe that others have developed one as well and by showing too much interest in that person, you might open a can of worms that you will have difficulties in controlling.

Better keep the relation strictly professional and avoid to start problems where they could be avoided.

[Nikki1989]

You don't proceed. You already answered your own question.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to her in person and let nature take its course.

[slatyb]

Just invite her to lunch or dinner or whatever.

[boobliker]

leave then date