I appreciate that the majority of couples who have been together will eventually lust or fancy someone else at some point in time. We're all human after all. However, i think most of the time (or at least from what older couples who have been together a long time tell me/imply) it is just a fleeting crush that doesn't last long. the fact you are acting on your lust (flirtatious texts) is only extended it and the more you interact with this man in a sexual and flirty way the longer your feelings will last until eventually you get together with this man and realise that he grass isn't really greener.
The question you have to ask yourself is, is it worth ruining you marriage over? Because if you act on your urges it will inevitably lead to hurt and heartbreak for your husband. You've been with your husband a long time. This co worker is new and exciting but he has flaws, just like your husband, but you probably won't see that until it's too late.
You've been with your husband a long time. This coworker is new and exciting.
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I don't think you should see him outside of work. There are different types of cheating... physical and emotional. It hasn't gotten physical, but from your description, it sounds like there may be a pretty significant emotional involvement... especially if you are texting him for reasons outside of work. Everyone has their own set of rules in a marriage... so I can't tell you what you should do... but if it were me, I'd stop all contact with him unless it was strictly for work. You know you are attracted to him, so why push it any further... it will just cause trouble.
You need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. If you sleep with this guy, it will NOT be a one time thing, I'm sure about that. And the worst part? It'll give you temporary happiness, but when you walk home to your family, you will still miss the attention, the love from your husband. So solve the problem and stop trying to ignore it.
"Temptation is the devil looking through the keyhole. Yielding is opening the door and inviting him in."
Since your starting to develop feelings and are doing things your husband would already view as inappropriate and thinking of doing things even more inappropriate you need to step back and think about where this is going and if you are prepared for what lies ahead. I understand the feeling and excitement you are getting for something new but who knows if that will last. You have a husband who is your ultimate love and not just a fling. Be faithful to him and pull back from this co-worker.
It can't go anywhere afterward is the problem.
It could go for more than awhile, and be an on-going thing.
But you're pretty much asking for a lot of trouble. Is your marriage and a stable home for you child worth the risk of getting your pussy pounded?
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It's quite normal that you're lusting. Humans like other humans even when emotionally connected to someone else. Your husband is not the alpha male or the best male out there. There will be other males out there who attract you more than him, who make you laugh more than him and who appeal to you more than him. Lusting is not wrong, but acting on that lust is wrong. You promised faithfulness to someone else, just keep that in mind when you interact with other guys.
Monogamy is super, super tough when you start feeling not as desirable to your SO, and have other men giving you the attention that makes you remember that you are still as attractive as your SO used to make you feel. I totally feel you... I have the exact same issue going on right now. It's So hard not to act on anything sometimes.
Careful what you say and do lust has a funny way of destroying everything you know and love. What about your husband do you miss the most from when you were first dating?
this can only get really bad.
you have to cut ties with this person, doesn't matter how it makes you feel.
how would you feel if you hubby did this to you?You are starting to go down a very big slope in a cart with no brakes. Better abort right now while you still can.
Think you can go back to your teenage years now that you have a husband and a child? You're in for a rude awakening.Is ur marriage becoming too "routine" or "stale"?
It is possible to be in a happy marriage but be bored because the passion and spontaneity is being lost in your life becoming too "routine".You're taking an awful risk. Stay loyal to your husband. This won't get you anywhere. The co worker will just fuck you and dump you. But your family might be destroyed anyway.
:( see if you can keep it professional. I know its hard
Female logic at it's finest. Hope your husband dumps your ass asap
is it really worth it?
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