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Of all the men and women you've known in life: friends, partners, family members etc who tend to be better listeners?

Here's some advice on how to be a better listener:

"Show You Are Listening

Part of really listening is responding in a way that shows the other person we are paying attention. We can demonstrate we are truly listening in four different ways. For example, if a coworker comes to you and complains about their micromanaging boss, you could show you are listening by:

Reflecting back the content
Example: As you see it, your boss is micromanaging you…

Reflecting back the feeling
Example: So you feel frustrated because…

Reflecting both content and feeling
Example: You feel frustrated because your boss is micromanaging you…

Being silent and attentive
A helpful phrase to show you are listening might be:

So you feel ___________________ because ______________________.

Other helpful phrases might include:

You seem…
You sound…
What I’m hearing is…
As you see it…
Tell me more…
Is there anything else…
Not only is listening to others a key life skill, it can also have a tremendous impact on building trust in a relationship. When we take the time to listen, we show the other person that we care—that we are interested in understanding their perspective. That can go a long way toward building, or rebuilding, a relationship.

“The purpose of life is to listen – to yourself, to your neighbor, to your world and to God and, when the time comes, to respond in as helpful a way as you can find … from within and without.” ~ Fred Rogers

I've been talking to a woman I met through work for a year, but increasingly since Christmas. We went 2 weeks of not talking when we had a disagreement after I asked to meet her a few months back and she said no. But after 2 weeks she reached out to me and we stated talking again. She has a strong history of cutting ties with people if they upset her, so I felt special when she reached out

I've liked this woman instantly since the first time we spoke on the phone. I'm sure there was attraction from her in the early days, but I was too afraid of making a move, so we became friends. I really like her on a personal level, she's amazing. I think I've said enough for her to know I like her without me directly telling her. My god, now I've met her, I think she's the most stunningly beautiful woman I've ever seen

We talk a few times a week, and our calls are at least hour. We are very supportive and caring of each other

Todays her birthday, and I am in her town for other reasons. Last night I told her I had a present for her and if she wanted, I could take it to her, but told her saying no was ok. She told me to take it this morning. This is the first time we've met in person. She's also moving house today so was packing her car when I arrived and she asked me to help. The conversation wasn't flowing as it usually does, it was awkward. She didn't really make any eye contact either. As we were loading the car, she asked if I had to go. I said no, but then she asked again once the car was loaded. She said she was cold and stood with her arms folded and looking into the distance, so I took this to mean she wanted me to go. I said good luck. She said thanks for the gift, and that she'd catch me later. For this she did look me in the eye. She was always smiling but I'm not sure if it was real

I'm feeling deflated now. I had butterflies, and was hoping sparks would fly

What do you think was going through her head. Does she reservedly like me, or was there no interest at all