I've been talking to a woman I met through work for a year, but increasingly since Christmas. We went 2 weeks of not talking when we had a disagreement after I asked to meet her a few months back and she said no. But after 2 weeks she reached out to me and we stated talking again. She has a strong history of cutting ties with people if they upset her, so I felt special when she reached out
I've liked this woman instantly since the first time we spoke on the phone. I'm sure there was attraction from her in the early days, but I was too afraid of making a move, so we became friends. I really like her on a personal level, she's amazing. I think I've said enough for her to know I like her without me directly telling her. My god, now I've met her, I think she's the most stunningly beautiful woman I've ever seen
We talk a few times a week, and our calls are at least hour. We are very supportive and caring of each other
Todays her birthday, and I am in her town for other reasons. Last night I told her I had a present for her and if she wanted, I could take it to her, but told her saying no was ok. She told me to take it this morning. This is the first time we've met in person. She's also moving house today so was packing her car when I arrived and she asked me to help. The conversation wasn't flowing as it usually does, it was awkward. She didn't really make any eye contact either. As we were loading the car, she asked if I had to go. I said no, but then she asked again once the car was loaded. She said she was cold and stood with her arms folded and looking into the distance, so I took this to mean she wanted me to go. I said good luck. She said thanks for the gift, and that she'd catch me later. For this she did look me in the eye. She was always smiling but I'm not sure if it was real
I'm feeling deflated now. I had butterflies, and was hoping sparks would fly
What do you think was going through her head. Does she reservedly like me, or was there no interest at all
What Girls Said
I'm sorry to say but she sounds very immature & fickle. I mean cutting people out because they upset her doesn't scream maturity, it screams of childishness.
Yes there's times to cut people straight out if they upset you, but most times you can talk with them and resolve an issue. Cutting a person straight out isn't nice or mature
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As for your question I will assume she's not interested and not nice or mature enough to say it.
I mean IF she was a nice person she'd have at least offered you a coffee for helping her pack the car for her move. Coffee is a $5 fee at Tim Hortons or even Starbucks and a coffee shop would be a more natural setting to sit down and talk.
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I personally wouldn't get my hopes up. It seems from her behaviour your conversations were more you were feeding her little ego - giving her attention she didn't have - and that she isn't mature or nice enough to act properly when you'd met finally.
I would NOT reach out if I was you, let her reach out again.
I don't know why 3 girls right now have voted shy. Shy is blushing, etc.
Staring out into the distance is usually an avoidance tactic used when you prefer not to acknowledge someone's existence. Similarly the avoidance of eye contact - eye contact is considered a sign of attraction - does NOT indicate she's been shy
To be honest, she sounds like a rude person that I wouldn’t waste another thought on.