We've been dating for a year, still not official, is this right?

I've been talking to this guy, it will be a year in November 13. Now these are the pros and cons of the relationship.


-He lives 2 minutes away from me, so we spend a lot of time together

-My parents love him.

-I can hang out with him with my friends

-I'm the first girl he has been able to bring home to, and even get to know his dad. It's a big deal considering that his dad is in the Navy. And he likes me, so that a plus.

-We literally do everything together, grocery shopping, hair cuts, help each other wash our cars, movie nights at each others' houses, homework (we're in college), we cook for each other, go to the gym together, shop together, you name it. We love each others' company. And we do leave each other alone when we need it.

-He's really nice to me, whenever we have an argument or disagreement, we never cuss. We don't cuss at each other or call each other names whatsoever.

-I can hang out with his sisters, and nephew as he can with my brother and sisters. We are close to each others' family.


-We have been off and on because he has been indecisive of whether or not he wants to be with me, because he's leaving for the Navy. I've been knowing this since we started talking, and I told him he was worth it for me to wait.

-He doesn't believe in love. Apparently, his last relationship ruined that for me. I already told him I loved him, even though he doesn't 'believe' in it, but he surely shows it to make up for the three words.

-We're already having sex (8 months into the relationship), but there will be times where he would call me his 'friend' or introduce me as one. It bothers me, A LOT. With the things we do, friends don't do that. And yet, he feels the same way when I'm just joking about us just being friends since we're not official!

-We never show minor PDA. Such as holding hands in public. And my friends ask me about that and think it's weird, but I don't know what to say about that, we just don't although I wouldn't mind it.

-He keeps mentioning about moving East (we live in California), but I don't feel like I'm in the picture.

We have been through a lot together, I love him and can see myself with him. He says he does too but, I'm not even his girlfriend. He's leaving in December for 5 weeks for his training. I'm afraid that he's going to end the relationship again. And maybe that's why he hasn't made it official. I just want opinions on whether this is all just a joke. I'm blinded by this relationship and can't really make an opinion for myself to why I'm not his girlfriend.

Sorry it's so long!
We've been dating for a year, still not official, is this right?
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