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Some background on my friend. She is very caring, strong, and loves getting people together. Sarah is pretty, always full makeup, hair curled, and always wearing something flattering. I am one who dresses more for comfort than appearance. I don’t like wearing makeup unless we are going out with friends or to do something where we are going to be in public all day. My boyfriend earlier on used to bring up how I should go shopping with my friend so I could start dressing like her. I told him her clothes are very expensive and not something I really wanted to put my money towards even when it comes to sweats. So for Christmas last year he bought me a bunch of lululemon. He says I need to be presentable when walking the dogs around our neighborhood. My friends have recognized when they all want us to do something the only person that can get my boyfriend interested is if Sarah tells him. He constantly gets upset with me that we never do what he wants, but he isn’t recognizing we always do what Sarah wants. He is a lot nicer and social with Sarah than he is with me. When I ask him why that is he says he would be the same way to me if I treated him how Sarah treats him. He is always asking who Sarah is dating and what she is up to. This is all so odd to me because he accuses me of having things with his friends if I even talk to them for 30 seconds, Let alone if I were to ever bring them up in convo. Last weekend I was upset about something else and it made me feel not good enough. He immediately brought up Sarah and how he doesn’t want her just me. My issue with the Sarah conversation isn’t that I think they would be together it is that I’m jealous of the attention and how nice he is to her in comparison to me. Throughout the night he would come up and say the same thing, I don’t want Sarah. I finally said I know for a fact Sarah doesn’t want you so I would really appreciate you stop saying that. It also just validates you aren’t hearing why that topic annoys me. So?

In my case i do but as in it would be great to spend my life with someone like him (i love his nature). And i want someone like that to be my patner.

But feels gross when it comes to sexualizing him. Neither do i find him attractive

Kinda confused what kind of feelings is this towards him.

I hear this... A LOT. I actually asked in a group on FB on how to find love, how the people have found their s/o and pretty much everyone answered the same.

Here are the answers:

"Don't look for it, because love will find you if the right chance comes."
"Stop looking it will happen"
"Quit looking... it will find you when you quit looking."
"Don't look for it, let it come to you!!"
"dont look on the web,, get out and find them in person"
"Don't look. It will find you when it is the right time."
"Stop looking. What is meant to be will come to you."
"There is someone for everybody, don't be desperate to find that one and you will stumble across the one you need when you least expect it."
"The harder you look the more difficult it will be to find."
"Select DON'T settle."
"Stop looking, you will find each other when you least expect it."

I do like the don't settle, my guy friend is telling me all the time to lower my standards... he doesn't understand.

Do you agree?