Hello. I do not know you personally, but yet fate draws us together. I’m glad you decided to take the time to read this letter and begin our healing journey together.
This is a letter from me to you.
I know there are days where you feel like giving up; days where you question your self-worth and wonder ‘am I enough?’
I know how much of a fight it is just to keep it together. Things haven’t been easy for you lately, but you woke up this morning and you’re still here; for that, I’m proud of you.
Breakups are never easy. It’s been close to 16 months since my breakup and I won’t lie to you and say that it no longer hurts.
Grief is a better teacher than joy. With each breakup, we learn more about love. We refine our definition of love; what love is and what it isn’t. When I was growing up, I often thought that love was expensive roses and candlelit dinners. I thought that being in love
meant sharing good moments together. I couldn’t have been further from their truth.
Now love (to me) means laughing at esoteric jokes that you both share. It’s letting your partner walk closer to the sidewalk to protect them from the oncoming traffic. Love is in the small things.
Regardless of how you feel right now, just know one thing: You are enough. You have always been enough. There’s never been a moment where you fell short and you’re gonna be okay. You’re hurting because you’re growing. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? I love listening to Ed Sheeran’s Supermarket flowers; it constantly reminds me that a heart that’s broke is a heart that’s been loved!
I hope you find joy in the little things: the small things in life, they add up.
Focus on yourself instead of chasing the wind. Learn to fall in love with yourself all over again. I hated being alone, but now, that’s all I truly desire. I might have built walls around myself; I might be alone, but safe.
Through your pain and sorrow, I hope you draw some measure of comfort knowing that you are SO loved by your friends and family. As Oscar Wilde puts it, ‘Who being loved, is poor?’
I hope you know how much I love you and I’m proud of you. You are seen and you are heard. Stop fighting. Just remain still.
Take a deep breath, and know that You’re gonna be okay. After the rain comes the rainbow. As sure as the sun will rise in the morning and set in the evening just the same, I know that you’re a fighter and you have what it takes to keep going.
To my ex: it’s been four hundred and forty-four breathtaking sunsets, calming sunrises, and captivating night skies without you, and I long to be by your side. ‘I want you to always remember me. Will you remember that I existed, and that I stood next to you here like this? ‘In my dream I kissed you and you whispered, “where have you been?” I said, “I've been lost but I'm here now. You're the only person who has ever been able to find me.”’ I’ll always be waiting for you, so the day you realise that we are meant to be, I will greet you, hug you tightly and say, ‘Hi, for half my life, I have been waiting for you.’
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