Can falling in love be avoided?

[Anonymous]

I would like to avoid that situation. I've seen what it does to people. It's like a drug that clouds your judgement and you can even end wasting your time too.

If it ever comes to that, I would like having the upperhand where he's the one catching feelings but I don't love him. That way I can think with my head more and not invest too much.

Can falling in love actually be avoided or it happens without thinking?

[NeverknowNeverTell]

Honestly not sure if it can be avoided. but if it could I would lol

if you find yourself "falling in love" or being reckless and attached to someone. I think the best thing you can do is to figure out what emotional needs haven't been met and find an alterative way to meet them.

are you actually just feeling lonely, meet some new friends. are you bored, find a new activity, hobby. feeling stuck, go exploring. ex.

a learned that a lot of emotions can be satisficed in different ways.

[Asker]

I just want to be sure that when I get into a relationship eventually, I choose right and not out of emotions. You can get lied too easily if you're just thinking with feelings without ever really knowing the person well.

[NeverknowNeverTell]

the best way to handle that is to look at your interaction with the person at face value. also weigh the consequences. if your relationship cost you more that it's worth than its clearly not a good decision. especially if you attachment is more based in fantasy

[Changiis07]

I feel like it can be avoided if you truly don't want it but then it happens where the guy you meet checks off all of your requirements and slowly it can happen

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes it can be avoided. Best things to do are learn as much as you can about them. Leaving mystery and not seeing their flaws allows space for your imagination to trick you into thinking they are perfect

[BarryLiverstone]

Why do you want him to have deeper feelings than you do?

[Asker]

So that way it's easier for me to get over him. I don't like the idea of a girl giving in too much. I don't want to be weak.

[BarryLiverstone]

Having emotions isn’t weak. Not connecting with how you feel isn’t healthy tho. If you want to get over him then why even think about him?

[Asker]

I have never been in a relationship yet (still in HS) but if I ever select a partner, I want to be sure I'm choosing right and not focus too much on pure emotions and ''in love'' without looking at the flaws, goals, etc.

[Asker]

Too many girls get stuck on the ''in love'' stage and either can get lied too, taken advantage of or invest too much time on just feelings

[BarryLiverstone]

Feelings can’t be avoided. It’s how you react to those feelings and how you make decisions that matter. Look everyone makes mistakes, relationships are muddy and confusing and simply can be good days and bad. But you can’t fear getting hurt because if you always close your heart then no one ever connects to you. If you see others getting hurt and taken advantage of at least they are trying to connect and just learning from mistakes.

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you want to feel love some day?

[Asker]

Yeah I supose I would be ok to feel it but as long as I'm not making reckless decisions nor basing the relationship on just pure attachment and fantasy.

[jayhams]

If you avoid a romantic relationship or just become really shallow you can avoid love.

[Asker]

I just don't want to be lied to or waste too much time if I ever get into a relationship.

[dustybiker]

It’s like an itch that needs scratching. It’s just there naturally. You can ignore it but it still exists.

[In_Trance]

No , but it is commonly misinterpreted

[Mafia24]

Yes easily...
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