Guys can pull away to protect their own feelings when they are falling in love? True or BS?

[Anonymous]

Guys question for you: Is it true that some guys may pull away, become distant and even avoid the girl when they start developing feelings for her if he thinks he might get hurt? Hypothetically due to incompatibility, distance, insecurity or whatever reason that would make dating that girl difficult... could you really pull away or avoid contact to protect yourselves from getting hurt?

AND WHY? (Its just difficult to wrap my mind around how someone can like you, have deeper feelings for you... and still act indifferent?)

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+1 y

He ended a 2.5years long distance relationship cause things got cold and the girl didn't want to move to his country anymore, so he was heartbroken, but didn't want a relationship without purpose so he ended things. He said he would never do long distance again.
We rekindled a flirtation from the past a bit after cause i was visiting his country in 2months so I arrived there and we were together 4 times, but I was another "long distance" fling. He would be hot and cold. Sweet and then aloof.. wt

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+1 y

We would have amazing sex and chemistry... I felt the intimacy, the "vulnerability"... and then after sex he would shut down and become aloof and distant. That bothered me and we had some arguments about it but he would always text back and act like he cared, only to be weird again later. To the point of not even kissing me anymore when we were not being intimate. It bothered me obviously. When I was leaving he sent me a cold farewell text. Could this be self preservation or he doesn't care?

[Pyrofox]

Its less to protect their feelings and not wanting to be seen as weak. Plus guys know girls aren't to be trusted with weakness. Any smart man knows women gossip like vultures picking at a carcass. Any smart man knows why women are compared to wolves instead of deer.

[Sandeeppingping]

I've done that, basically was worried she didn't like me back, and yes it's brutal yet we still pull it off outwardly

[Asker]

And did you have ulterior motives? Like wanted her to chase you or just protecting yourself?

[LazerBean]

They can, but that doesn't make them any less of a waste of time.

[Anonymous]

Guys pull away generally when they spot something amiss. I have done it many times. I nobody's game, I'm nobody's second choice or fallback. If I feel that I will pull this car over and walk home... so to speak.

[TroyDT]

True. "Feelings" can lead one to make incredibly bad decisions which can cripple someone financially for the rest of his life.

[Anonymous]

No. That is not true.

Guys pull away to avoid bullshit drama, clingy hanger ons, etc.

But if we are getting feelings for a girl, pulling away is the last thing we would do.

[Asker]

That's what I think too, most of the time... but what about if you've been hurt before by the same "situation " you're living with this new person... the odds not really on favor of the relationship... ?

[Opinion Owner]

When we are hurt, we simply avoid women in the first place. So we don’t even get to know them.

[Asker]

Thanks... can you check my update and tell me what you think?

[Luckycharms12]

Yes we can if we where hurt before

[Anonymous]

True