Do guys ever hide their true feelings, and if so why?

[Anonymous]

Is it ever possible for a guy to really like you, but not do anything about it

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So I told him I have feelings for me and he told that he cares about me and stated that we need to hang out more so we'll see.

[Azara]

if they were 'hiding' their feelings you wouldn't know they were hiding their feelings bc theyd be hidden. i.e. not evident. for all you would know they have no feelings.

the only way you can know somone feels something that they are hiding, is if they let you know they are feeling/hiding it, in whihc case they are not hiding it. they are 'sharing' it.

lots of people try to be secretive about how they feel. people not just 'men'.

some people do it bc they genuinely a not comfortable with their feelings.
others bc they are not comfortable sharing their feelings.
others bc they re taught its shameful to express yourslf.
others bc they think it is cool to pretend they dont care.
others bc they think it will make them look more attractve..

by the way anger jealousy annoyance- these are big fat feelings.
i would be very surprised if you know very many people who goes to great lengths to cover these up.

[Anonymous]

I recently began dating this guy and things were amazing, best guy I've dates. We had 5 amazing dates where we made food together and slept over and just had a amazing time. He even said he liked me and it sucked how we didn't get to spend much time togehter due to him living in another time.
After that one amazing date he began pulling away, and i have no idea why honestly. All i know is that he dated a girl for 6 years and they broke up last year, and she is with a new guy now and pregnant, and on top of it all he recently told me he isn't looking for anything serious cause he has a lot to do and doesn't have time for it.

It sucks yes, cause we had a amazing connection but is he afraid to fall in love again?
So i do think guys hide their feelings, as much as we girls do it in order to not get hurt.

[Opinion Owner]

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[cupcakequeen]

Guys often like girls and do nothing about it. Sometimes they are just naturally shy and other times they can be intimidated if the girl is extremely pretty or nice. If a guy says he "cares about you" it's almost a sure fire sign that he likes you. But don't dive face first in love with him when he says this. Guys have troubles expressing their feelings at times whether it's a friendship or if they like the girl. "I care about you" could easily mean as a friend. But you should definitely take the opportunity and hang out to see if he makes a move.

[Anonymous]

Yes we do, this is because of many reasons, many of us are taught that it is not manly to show our feelings, some peoples parents teach their kids this. Some women (I am not saying all) also tell us to man up if we show feelings so that also makes us hide them to.

[Conrad_Kelsiven]

Well, sometimes I just stoneface because it's simpler. I have moved quite a bit, and usually I knew about the move a few months in advance. Why get into something that is just going to be drawn out?

[cheerfulmeee]

I read about it and says that it has something to do with their hormones and its men's nature to hide their true feelings and even themselves don't understand why.. that some of them if they show feelings or express it, they feel they are weak... and nobody wants to feel weak so maybe thats it..

[Asker]

Or they don't want to give us too much power. Lol.

[cheerfulmeee]

Maybe...because in ancient times, power is only for men... and remember the saying "history repeats itself" :) and also ancient men and modern men has similar male hormones so I strongly believe it has something to do about it that we can't control...lol

[Asker]

Lol its a macho thing. I get it now. We just need to bust these men down. Lol.

[cheerfulmeee]

Yes exactly a macho thing and thats what they like..hah! Don't bust them, you're not that mean..lol :)

[harakiri]

All the time. Too scared, too ashamed, don't want to think about their feelings, don't want to change whatever pattern of behavior they're set on. This really applies to both genders.

[Asker]

That sucks because, I feel like a lot of good guys are damaged by past relationships where they've been hurt, and it causes them to lose trust in all woman, and they just give up.

[harakiri]

Plenty of women like that too. It does suck. But such is life.

[Asker]

Then a good girl comes along, who would give them the world, and that girl gets hurt by them, thus in return, they never trust guys. Endless cycle.

[harakiri]

Yes, therefore you should do what I'm planning to do. A lifetime of solitude =P

[Asker]

Lol. Right. Got to think of yourself first.

[Anonymous]

Its a difficult one because guys are the "hunters" ...tell a guy too quickly that you like him and the challenge is over and he looks for some else. The right balance has to be there before each one opens up to the other. I know that if a certain girl that I like told me that she liked me, I would go out with her in an instant. Also the spark of attraction has to be there because without attraction you have nothing. Guys dont tend to mixed up minds, we are more focussed in this department. A few years back my now ex girlfriend called me up one night told me how she felt and the next day we started dating. I didn't have to consult friends, horoscopes etc...I just did it!

[Anonymous]

Yes, i used to like this very beautiful girl in one of my classes but she didn't feel the same and it was awkward after i showed her i liked.. Now there is this other girl in my class and we smile at eachother but thats how the other girl was and im just saying "fuck it" to this girl because im not interested in being let down again.. She laughs at stuff i say and tried to talk to me but in just brushing it off.

[Conviction]

Yes. A guy can hide his feelings, due to the fact that he might've been hurt in the past. He doesn't wanna get hurt by a girl anymore, so he moves on by either locking or obliterating his feelings.

[Theguyoverthere]

I pretty much have to because every time I do reveal having feelings the girl runs away. So to keep dating, I can't have feelings unfortunately.

[DodgersGM]

Yeah it's possible. I'm a forward and honest person but I can admit that when I tell a girl I'm into her I still battle some nerves. I still do it, though!

[Asker]

Yeah but it sucks when you like the guy, you know the guy likes you. You know he's a good guy. He's just a lot of work.

[Insaan]

I am happy to share this information with you...
www.succeedsocially.com/shyguys

[Asker]

I have read it a thousand times. Lol.

[Insaan]

You cannot do anything for that then until you force them indirectly to do something about it.

[Asker]

I know shy guys are hard. But I've never dated one before and I like this guy a lot. I just want to take my time and see where it goes naturally. We both have a lot going on right now. I just don't want time to pass and I lose him for not pushing him because I am conventional in my dating habits.

[Insaan]

I understand. I am just shy like your crush. But we shy guy think " how can a pretty girl even like shy guy like me when there are plenty of confident ones hanging around? She will probably get bored of me and leave me for some other guy one day who is lot better than me"
You will have to convince in some other way that " YES I CAN REJECT CONFIDENT ONES FOR YOU...
But do not worry, shy guys behave like confident ones, once they get comfortable after getting some special attention from women. It convinces them indirectly, "however i am she is liking me. "
It increases their confidence.
Who knows, you may discover brad Pitt behind his shy personality when alone. Lol

[Asker]

Haha lol I know. He has a lot of amazing qualities and he is not like any other guy that I have been interested in before. I think that is one of the reasons that I do like him so much. I myself am also used to having a mind set something similar to that of a shy insecure person, so I kinda understand. But I do care a lot and want to see where things may go. I just don't want him to think I don't like him cuz I am kinda shy too.

[Asker]

P.s. I am normally pretty outgoing and not afraid to go after what I want. But I've always been let Dow. That way, that's why I don't want to do this with this guy.

[Insaan]

Aww...such a Cutie you are :)
Yes i know, it is our job to approach women. But lol sometimes, it happens opposite of what we expect. We humans are capable of doing everything against nature. We humans have those people who are gay , lesbians, transexuals, bisexuals.
Haha approaching a guy is just a smaller part of it.
I wouldove it when a adorable chick i am crushing on comes to me all of sudden , hold my hands, make me look in to her eyes, and i stare her in shock when she says " hey buoooy , what are you thinking and always looking at , am i something alien? We are going to see each other today in eve. Be there okay? I will text Bye cya"
And i am still in state of shock.LOL

[Maosource]

It sounds like he has some feelings for you, but is giving mixed signals cause he is not sure yet. Gud luck

[Chris011]

Yup, all the time. Good luck trying to wait for him to do anything because chances are he won't :\\. Especially if he really likes the girl.

[Asker]

But Dont U Think Thats Self sabotage? What does the girl have to do? Literally throw herself at him? And then that's not an attractive trait of a female.

[Chris011]

Yea it definitely is. They're trying to shield themselves from facing rejection from the person they adore the most. Give really clear signs that you are into him. Don't flirt with other guys when he's around or he'll think you're just a flirt and will doubt himself.

[Chris011]

Not all guys will find that attractive (probably) but i do hahah.

[Asker]

And that's what's so damn confusing. Lol.

[Chris011]

Lol. If you want a shy guy you have to give signals to him.. Pretend to accidentally walk past him when he's around. Sit near him. Smile at him (big sign for shy guys). Glance at him a lot. If you don't give him signals he will feel like you're not into him and will just give up.

[Keyspirits]

All the dam time hunny. We feel really regretful afterwards cuz there's nothing we can do..

[FreeLunch]

Yup.

Why? I don't know.

[Asker]

Well damn. I guess a lot of reasons.

[ThisAndThat]

Yes it is and it happens all the time.

[Anonymous]

I'm a Robot I have no feelings lol.

[cheerfulmeee]

Nice one..hah! :)

[Opinion Owner]

LOL thanks Cheerfulmeee