He suddenly stopped texting after a month of talking—should I be worried?

[Anonymous]

Been talking to this guy for about a month everything has been going great but he stopped texting me yesterday should I be worried? I thought he probably took a nap after work but it’s been about 12 hours now

[HollyK21]

In my opinion, solely texting cannot sustain a romantic relationship for very long, especially if one or both parties aren’t much of a texter in the first place. The beginning stages can be cool, that’s why they call it honeymooning. But eventually the reality of what’s going on begins to seep in, and you see if this person is really such a good, consistent texter or if they were just riding the wave of novelty.


After a month, if you guys haven’t hung out already then there should be some plan in motion to do so. Otherwise, neither of you know where this connection is going and he may not wanna commit to a penpal connection, at least consistently throughout the day. If I were him and texting was our only route of communication then I’d probably space sending messages out eventually as well, not to be ping ponging texts every hour of the day, every day and risk the conversation becoming too stale or repetitive.


In this case, if you’re genuinely worried about this being a matter of his wellness or safety then call him instead of text, because this would essentially be an emery and in any case you aren’t breaking any boundaries by calling. But if you feel reluctant to do so then maybe that’s your gut telling you that he’s most likely fine and he’s just losing interest in all the texting.

[DishLady]

If it's just talking why are you worried?

[MissSunshine2]

Hey, one of my guy friends had this same issue with the woman he's now thinking of proposing to after they've been together or long enough for both of them to be ready (next year, if they're still together).

He's absolutely over the moon, madly in love with her. When he texted me, all panicky about her lack of response, after she sent him a photo of herself and then stopped texting him for about five days and he'd explained her history to me, that she'd been married previously, I suggested that he just tried not to overthink the whole situation. If he truly wasn't interested, I said, she wouldn't be texting him or sending him photos at all. I said she's probably stressed out about her last marriage and needs reassurance that you love and respect her and she will come around if you let her get on with her working week and wait til the weekend to text her again. He followed my advice and now he's considering marrying her one day. They just went out for dinner a few nights ago. My point isn't that my advice is always right. But in this case it was. Look at them now. They seem closer to getting married than I currently am.

[choco-latte]

Maybe he’s busy, give it a little bit more of time first. If he doesn’t text you back after 24 hours just send him a simple text like “you there?” And if he still ignores for another 24 hours then I’d say you should start thinking about moving on.

Like I said, give it some time first though. Don’t lose hope just yet.

[objective_calendar]

It hasn't even been a day? Well if you're constantly texting the 12 hour gap may seem long but in the grand scheme of things stuff happens and he's probably pretty occupied. Just wait, he'll most probably get back to you in no time.

[Nikki1989]

OMG, give me a fucking break!

[ZSean]

People get busy especially if you are not offically dating. He might just have had plans and forgot to go back and respond.

Or thought he did.

[Mariogirl09]

He has a week to ask you out on a date. Its been 3 or 4. Stf are you doing?

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should panic. He's obvious found a found a hotter girl and is dumping you. Blow up his phone with crazy, insecure accusations and get it all out girl !! He'll come crawling back because he is so totally in love with you!

[Anonymous]

Probably not, but it depends on what the last thing you sent was.

[beenherebefore]

It's just been 12H what are you worried about?

[sage2021]

Have you heard from him yet?

[FreyaRed]

OMG 12 hours... it's a tragedy

[Alice0006]

Call him to get a direct answer.

[_Jenny_]

nope

[derick01]

I'd be concerned

[In_Trance]

Did you call him?