Can you date someone long-term if you’re emotionally connected and only 30-40% physically attracted to them?

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Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

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Yes, you can date long-term with 30–40% physical attraction if the emotional connection is strong, but it’s risky. Early on, it might feel fine, especially if they treat you amazingly. Over time, lack of chemistry can turn into resentment, low desire, wandering eyes, or feeling “trapped.”

Emotional connection is the foundation, but romantic relationships need real physical spark too. If you’re already questioning it, that’s a yellow flag, maybe even a soft red one.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't "date long-term", well.. I haven't

and I don't "half-assed" relationships either, pardon my French... lmao

so far, I've only had 100000000% fully committed-exclusive relationships

"30% attraction" sounds funny to me, lol, because... what's that? or how's that

" I like your face... one arm, and one leg, the rest hmmm... not so much"

so, how does that work? lol

ericJackson · Answer

You can, but it’s tough over the long haul. Emotional connection builds the foundation, but physical attraction keeps the romantic spark alive. If that 30–40% doesn't naturally grow as you fall for their personality, it often ends up feeling more like a great friendship than a romantic partnership.

ASKNETTEERM99 · Answer

if u feel that way after say less than a decade then no. attraction may fade as their attractiveness does but if sexual attraction is forced, then that relationship is going to be over in a year or be dragged on by someones/both ppls lack of will power to leave.

Anonymous · Answer

30%-40%, what does that even mean? Do you have to be head over heels in love with someone?

Feelings are not logical. We may know what we find physically attractive about someone. But when feelings become engaged the rulebook goes out the window.

I'd twist that question and ask the reverse. "Can you date someone long term if you're physically attracted to them, but only 30-40% emotionally attracted to them. It seems to me that'd be much more difficult.

Anonymous · Answer

well attraction is important. but part of that is the emotional connection. If someone isn't your type physically, but is perfect every other way, it might be just because of your pre-conceived preferences on appearance. It's okay to date someone who isn't a model. 😁 (I volunteer as tribute)

Amy10223 · Answer

You can date anyone you want. Whether you are dating them because you like their looks, or like their money, power, personality, is up to you.

bowenw · Answer

Yes. An emotional connection is what is most important in a long term relationship as it will remain long after physical attractiveness fades with age.

Still-alive · Answer

I would say yes because to me if im emotionally connected it means im really into them romantically. Heck there's been times where my emotional attraction to them or even just their personality adds to their physical attractiveness.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not everyone is obsessed with looks. Some people seek something deeper.

MrChinaski · Answer

I wouldn't recommend it. 30-40% is pretty low. If things work out you're going to be looking at that for the rest of your life.

astlavista · Answer

Yes, it’s possible if the emotional connection is strong and there’s still enough physical attraction for intimacy. But if attraction feels consistently too low, it can become a long-term issue.

Maria1986z · Answer

No, they tend to be only temporary. At least until “someone better comes along,” I’d rather be single than if it was me.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Yes it's possible even for marriage with her if we have good understanding.

msc545 · Answer

Depends on how intellectually interesting they are.

Anonymous · Answer

How do they look? Vs what’s your ideal type

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

See I'm different if im emotionally connected then I'll be attracted to that person physically

Anonymous · Answer

yes, even if i am only 10 percent physically attracted emotional connection is the best aphrodisiac

Kelly6 · Answer

@bobalife Yes I can.

wkhan_87 · Answer

I have married someone like that

LiamJHayden · Answer

Easily.

dudeinohio · Answer

Sure

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