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27F, I hate to describe this as daddy issues. For the most part, my dad and I have gotten along. My parents divorced when I was 8, after that he started to take his frustrations out on me (mom cheated). At around 23 I got tired of it, I moved out of state to live w my gma at 13 but we talked over phone. I pretty much said fuck him and didn’t talk to him for three years. My parents are still good friends, my mom has been with the same guy and my dad is single I think.

For over a year, my dad and I rekindled. He seemed to change with me, I think he knows I’m not taking that anymore and we never argue. But I’m irritated when he calls too often. My mom can call me whenever (I have resentment towards her too) and I have no prob. My dad calls too frequently (more than once a week) and I get irritated.

He just annoys me, he asks me the same questions frequently and I put him in his place lol. I know he remembers, my mom blames it on him not knowing what to say to me. My dad doesn’t have a good relationship with his family, everyone always makes the excuse that I’m all he has. My moms family is shit too but I guess she has a boyfriend and 2 other kids.

What frustrates me is that really isn’t my fault, I always think what if I was married or had kids. I would have to coddle and make time for my dad then too? I’m single, no friends and don’t feel like I need to talk to my parents that often.

TL;DR: am I being too harsh with my dads need to talk with me often?

I come over on weekends and boyfriend (of 8 years on the 11th) and I share a queen bed. The way he likes us to sleep is on top of the comforter with single Mexican blankets covering us. One of them is slightly larger, I usually use it since I get colder and it covers my shoulders and feet. He will keep the fan on every night and sometimes crack the window even in 20 degrees, so I’m usually cold at his house.

Lately, he’s been getting colder with the winter weather. Last night, he got really angry and started yelling at me because he said he was tired of being cold in his own bed and blamed me. Saying I don’t give a shit about him, when just that morning I had given him the extra blanket I went and got out of the living room and literally covered him up with it. It didn’t matter to him and he ended up telling me he didn’t even want me here. He knows I’m struggling with feeling like no one wants me around and am at a really low point, as I just mentioned it not long ago. I started crying and he offered no comfort (he usually doesn’t), instead he got more mad. He told me “Alright I told you to be quiet and you’re not, so leave.” I was crying and begging him to just let me go to bed at that point, I had already taken something to help me sleep so driving wasn’t an option.

Honestly I feel sometimes like he wants an excuse to be mean to me. He could’ve easily gotten under the blanket we sleep on top of, or gotten one out of his closet and now I have to hear his words of “I don’t even want you here echoing in my mind now, when I already feel totally unwanted, even by my own family. I try to talk to him and he doesn’t listen. Is he justified to be so upset at me? What are your thoughts? Thanks in advance!