Search Results: what you would change about your partner

Scenario:

You've been together for 6 months or more, everything is going great but you find out they used to bullied others during their junior and HS school years. They didn't want to share this shameful information about themselves. Would you still be with them if they changed their ways since? Or would you immediately break-up?

"Look at her... she's so pretty!!"
"Why aren't you like your brother, he's smart."

I'm not sure this is just Eastern culture. It seems like complimenting the third person in order to compare your partner, kid or friend is a trick to motivate someone to improve themselves. But does it work?

For me, as the 3rd person, this behavior could bring me troubles, eg. the persons being compared turned to me instead of taking actions to change something about them. I know they're upset and then became rude and criticized me (at the first time we met). That's why I don't feel good when a married man/boyfriend compares their partner with me. It actually causes more self-doubt because I'm still single. Above all, I prefer to have other ladies to be my friends, not enemy.

If you have been compared, how do you feel, REALLY?

Would you confront the person who does so, and tell him or her about your feelings and thoughts?

We have gotten closer to one another, yet our previous selves have not returned. We are developing alongside one another, but some people have realized they are just total strangers. Being married to someone who has changed over time can be unsettling. You have no idea if the two of you will grow apart or together. Change can be scary because it’s the complete unknown. I was told by the older generation you have to grow separately before you can grow together. If you don’t grow separately then it’s gonna be hard for you to grow together. Everyone doesn’t always turn out the mature one when troubles come. Live apart for a length of time before you can live together. I was always told this