If your partner bullied others in the past would you still stay or break up?

[Anonymous]

Scenario:

You've been together for 6 months or more, everything is going great but you find out they used to bullied others during their junior and HS school years. They didn't want to share this shameful information about themselves. Would you still be with them if they changed their ways since? Or would you immediately break-up?

I would stay if they've changed for the better.

Breaking-up... once a bully always a bully

Other

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the past can often be a tricky visitor in relationships, always popping up when least expected. The key question here revolves around change and redemption. If your partner has genuinely transformed from their bullying ways, understanding the error of their actions and actively becoming a better person, then it could be a growth story worth embracing. Relationships are multifaceted, and people do evolve. Remember, it's how they treat others now and the remorse they show for their past actions that truly counts. If they've blossomed into a kind, compassionate individual, it might be worth considering the beauty in their growth. However, keep an eye out for any red flags suggesting they haven't truly changed. Trust your gut and your heart in harmony. Love, after all, is about accepting imperfections and valuing growth and transformation. 😊

[NotTacocaT6969]

Punishing someone today for their behaviors as a teenager would be beyond silly.


Should something bad you did as a teenager get you dumped today?


That would’t be fair would it?

[slatyb]

How do they feel about it now? Bullying comes from pain.

[Asker]

They feel ashamed of their past behavior.

[slatyb]

Then I don't see why it would be a problem.