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Okay so my father and I are not the closest because he makes me very uncomfortable ever since I was young. Recently I moved back to my hometown and have been visiting my parents often, this brought up a lot of memories of instances where my father made me extremely uncomfortable.

Now I recently got a new haircut and came over to my parents’ for a visit. My dad pointed out my new hair and said “wow nice hair, that makes you look sexy”. His comment made my skin crawl… I know he meant it as a compliment but it didn’t sit right with me. I personally don’t think it was appropriate as he could’ve just said I look pretty/beautiful instead - am I just overreacting?

I met my boyfriend online in November, and we plan to meet in person for the first time in May. Since he lives in another country, he invited me to visit him, but he asked me to split the cost of my ticket in our FIRST TIME MEET.

What bothers me is that, in the past, he traveled back and forth to the Philippines to visit his ex-wife and even paid for long hotel stays with his other exes. He paid everything without them contributing! He often tells me he values me more than his past partners and sees me as his future wife. However, when I questioned why he treated his exes differently, he said it was because they were poor, while I earn a better income. I explained that I have major expenses, including living alone in another country and supporting family in my home country, but he insisted that since I’m in a better financial position, I should contribute.

It’s not that I refuse to split the cost, but I can’t shake this uneasy feeling about why he’s treating me differently. Am I overreacting, or is my concern valid?

Please advise what should I do? And, vote below!