Search Results: asking the right questions

For the most part I care to do right by people including women. That’s not to say I haven’t ever done and said things I regretted. That doesn’t I might have a few personality quirks that women don’t appreciate. But I do know I’ve overall try to do right.

But I also know there are some true POS guys out there. Abusive and violent men. Sociopaths. Psychopaths. I know damn well not every guy would react to a situation as thoughtfully as I would.

However find myself often initially give the other guy the benefit of doubt when I hear an abuse or sexual assault story from a woman. I will however convict the guy mentally if there is actual hard evidence to prove he really did something.

But while just hearing some woman’s verbal testimony I often find myself thinking “what if tha was me” she was accusing? I know I would never in my life do anything like the abuse stories we hear about men harming women. However if I don’t know the accused guy well I often keep asking questions about the incident to gather more info. I want to see if the woman is changing her story or leaving out crucial details (e. g. a woman claims a man hit her. But did she hit him first?).

But again it’s very naive to assume another guy would react and behave the same way I would in a situation. I never rule out he might be a truly violent abusive POS.

But do women second guess other women while hearing abuse claims? When they hear stories is there ever any doubt in their minds about the other woman is saying?

I bet some think twice about it. But from my observations women often immediately imagine themselves being the in the place of the victim in the verbal abuse story. Not all but they seem persuaded very quickly and take the other woman’s story at face value. Sometimes is the complete truth but not always. But are women able to imagine the possibility that the other woman might be malicious and a liar?