My husband and I have been together for 10 years outside of our marriage. Recently I have been noticing he’s been keeping in touch with his female coworker through texts and calls. She does not work around him anymore and works in a different department. Upon asking him about the situation, he said it is all casual friendship. But when I’m at work, he doesn’t want me to talk to other men in the work environment or have friends. Working in a factory with the vast majority of coworkers being male, I find that almost impossible. I’m not allowed to text or call another man work related because he thinks it’s not right. I’ve never made him question my loyalty but he’s made me question his many times. It’s gone to the point where we continue to disagree on the subject So should I be okay with him doing it but for me to be prohibited from it? What would be the best way to address the situation?
Well it wasn't ok for my ex to have friends that where girls because he basically slept with them and pretended they where his friends I mean I member one time he showed me one of them that's a friend in his phone when he was drunk pictures of out sea life centre with her but not took me on outings so I said your taking your friend that's a girl out but not me pathetic prick your not much of a boyfriend are you Nd all I do is be fucking nice to you he always said he would go out places with me but changed his mind on the point of doing it but went out with them asshole and a friend that was girl he showed me naked pics of her she sent him on his phone he said at one point she had nice tits in one a said wit you all about am your girlfriend Nd your saying that a also mentioned that why do u still keep them in your phone if your not interested and she's just a friend and then he said she knew about me and when he phoned her I said tell her I said hello but he kept muting the phone so I knew she didn't know about me and he was cheating so I didn't like him having friends that where girls he just shagged or spoke dirty to everyone dick head I had guy friends but I didn't cheat I always said am with someone to them but yet he was shagging Nd talking dirty with his friends that are girls so no I didn't like him having girls that are friends
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could it be he's to be trusted and your not... men are more agressive by nature and you may be just too beautiful to tempt men with... while a man doesn't get anywhere unless he makes all the moves.
So you find out he talks to a woman at work and your reaction isn't "stop" it's "in that case I wanna talk to men at work too"
Sounds to me like your marriage isn't that sturdy.
Clearly your desires are found elsewhere.
If his behavior really bothers you then maybe try having a conversation with him. One would think after 10 years together you'd be doing that already
" My husband and I have been together for 10 years outside of our marriage" Does this mean you were dating for 10 years and now you're recently married?
Anyway, your husband's double standard is regressive nonsense. I wouldn't be surprised if he were having sex with other women. As MzAsh says - what are you prepared (or unprepared) to do about it?
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I think you know the answer here. What are you prepared to do about it?
Combo response: NO. Neither of you should have friends of the opposing gender. It is disrespectful and dishonorable to the other. We do not have friends of the opposite gender nor do either of us remain alone in the same room as someone of the opposite gender when the other is not present.
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Any relationship where both partners are not treated with the same level of respect is not OK but at the end of the day it dont matter how many strangers tell u this as its your choice to be in a relationship that treats u unfairly wither tey to set better boundaries or find a partner that can respect u
No. Absolutely not. My wife has a ‘work husband’ (in another city) and a ‘gay boyfriend’ at her job. I’m not particularly concerned by either. I often go for after work drinks with female colleagues without her, usually on date night when we meet up later for dinner and a movie. The key is good communication and frequent sex so neither of you feel neglected, threatened or unsatisfied.
he's being ready shady... watch out. he may even be cheating on you. he does this stuff to have the upper hand and to be controlling... you are in a controlling relationship and it will likely get worse.
Perhaps it's time you put your foot down and told him to do the same.
He cheats or wants to. He doesn't trust you because of his own thoughts. Basically he is projecting. Why are you married to someone who doesn't even trust you?
No it’s not ok at all. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander
Maybe he knows that guys cannot be trusted. They are always looking for something on the side
yeah. red flags everywhere. he sounds like a bit of a bollocks
It's not fair, but then again usual guys can't get laid with their female friends 😂
It should go both ways
No, it’s not okay.
Sounds like a double standard to me.
He sounds insecure and possessive.
Double Standards = Not Okay.
That seems a little controlling
Nope. That's definitely not OK.
Sounds controlling
No, that is not ok.
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