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Imagine you knew your partner had done sexual things with other people before they met you, how would you feel hearing about the details of these experiences?

For example, imagine they began casually discussing these experiences with their friends in front of you, or even if your partner began telling you details about it in private. How would you feel about this, would it bother you at all?

This question is inspired because from early on in our relationship, my husband would talk about these things in front of me. And I don't just mean confessing that he'd done stuff, but giving details, even joking about it. A few times even his friends and family have brought the topic up in front of me, and casually chatted about the details while I just sit there awkwardly having to hear it all.

This made me feel very uncomfortable and upset, but my husband and his friends don't understand why and think I should just get over it and get used to listening to it, because it's what they like to talk about.

How would you guys feel in this situation?

['S/O' = Significant other]

My friend is pregnant by a guy she's known for 7 years, but has been with for 8-9 months.

Backstory: She was engaged to a different guy last March 2018. Her ex-fiance was with her for 8 1/2 years before they finally got engaged. Then he left her in October 2018. A week later, she was with new guy who is now baby daddy. Neither of them have other kids. I believe she's 2-3 months along.

I always believed in waiting until marriage to have kids. I don't necessarily think that will make a marriage last, but as a teacher, I see a lot of students have kids when they aren't ready, or I know parents who have kids (my students) with someone they thought they loved but several years later find out they actually hate them with a fire red regardless of age. It's great fun being in the middle of that and hear parents trash each other [sarcasm]. I teach 7th/8th graders.

I'm not necessarily jumping at the chance to have kids so I kept my opinion of her pregnancy to myself. But I think it's a topic that's not really discussed a lot in relationships so I decided to ask it here.

How long should you be with someone before having a child with them?