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Hey, so I met a guy around 7 yr ago while I was working in a restaurant, he asked for my number &then a few weeks later I got a train to see him for the weekend. We got on really really well but I didn’t sleep with him as wernt officially dating, we spoke for months after but I ended up going travelling& when I got back he had a girlfriend, I ended up in a 3 year relationship but then we both somehow ended up single at the same time, he contacted me (as must have seen I deleted all photos of ex) we went on a date and the date was just amazing I can’t explain the butterfly feeling he gives me. Still didn’t sleep with him as I’m old fashioned and we weren’t exclusive.. anyways after the date I got back with my ex and we didn’t speak. A year later I’m single & he gets in touch asking if I’m okay and randomly turned up at my house with flowers to cheer me up. we end up talking for a few weeks and he’s asking me why I never make effort to talk to him and why he’s always chasing me (he’s a basketball player so I’m kind of wary that he’s talking to loads of other girls & I’m a bit shy I’m nowhere near as hot) by the way we still haven’t had sex but just having a really nice connection. Again he goes radio Silent on me.. so fast forward a few months and he rings me drunk saying I’m the only person he’s ever loved and he’s so nervous around me etc.. I thought I would make more effort with him so I start finally messaging first and stuff and we plan to have a night away and we talk about having sex & it gets quiet passionate. then again he goes radio silent. so a month goes by & after hearing nothing from him he pops up merry Christmas I love you & one day your going to be my wife which is random as hell since he practically ghosted me twice this year? Then after talking every night on the phone he’s gone silent again? am I reading this all wrong does he even like me or what? or am I just not making enough effort? & no he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend I know his family

28F, I’ve had this guy following me on IG for maybe 2+ years. We matched on a dating app a while back, I think he remembers the timeline better than I do. He ended up following me on IG, we msged a bit & ever so often he’d like my photos or send me a message. I usually left him on read, we spoke on the phone for the first time in 2021. We’re from the same state but he moved PST for work, he offered to pay to fly me to where he lives & would pay for the hotel too. I told him that I’d need to get to know someone a bit better before making such a drastic move. That’s when the convo was initiated over the phone, he seemed like a pretty cool guy it was a good talk but I knew it was long distance & saw it as more of a pen pal. We didn’t message for a few months after he left a message of mine on read (he offered to play a virtual game with me but never followed through), he ended up contacting again after my dog died. It’s back to the emojis & liking my photos.