We’ve been hanging out about once a week and this week New Years Eve and Day together, I did some post contact initiation to see how she’s doing cuz she felt sick. After a few brief texts I let it be. It’s been a few days with no contact except today which she Snapchated me a pic of her dog and I responded with my dog. But nothing else. I don’t really consider that “making contact”. I really don’t know if she wants me to reach out to her, but I do enjoy when she asks me what I’m up to, and then I make a plan. Should I initiate contact over the next day to check her availability or should I let her come to me first then initiate the next hangout?
How often should a man take initiative in the beginning of a relationship? When to let the woman do the chasing?
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Despite popular rhetoric, most women won’t chase, ever. Some women, even married women, will run away for no other reason than to make a man chase. Think about it. If YOU had that much power over another human being, would you never use it? Ell oh ell!
That said, if you’re gonna play this game, you have to be absolutely certain she’s hooked. If not, she’ll be banging another dude before you can finish asking the question, “Why isn’t she totally into me?”. Ell oh ell! If you’re afraid of losing her, don’t even try.
I dont chase men unless theirs damn good reason why.
Have u dated before?
Yes, and don’t want to make the same mistakes I’ve made in the past by being too pushy/needy. Fine line in the first few months
I only ask because from my experience most women in the early stages are terrble at making communication her sending u that pic would have been a sign of it
I get that. Almost like her way of sending “what you up to?” without having to start a convo. It’s almost like they want us to start a convo, as did my ex but things became dry. Every dating coach out there says the same, let them initiate convo… you make the plans. But it’s like “did she really initiate”?
I looked back at the early convos me and my now fiancé had and even she agrees she was terrble and questions why I continued because from I have seen women are terrble at putting their foot forward