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28F, only thing I know for certain is I have anxiety & my self esteem could be better. But, nothing too terrible that makes me incapable of finding a LTR. I’ve been on and off dating apps for years, I don’t get how they don’t work for me as it’s known women have it easier & people tell me I’m attractive (not just family/friends). I have to use the apps bc I never get approached in person, I get the matches but in the end it just doesn’t work out. The last time I saw someone I was 23 & that only lasted for a few months. It felt like settling & I’ve become even pickier now. I don’t really have that much of a sex drive but that isn’t something a guy can sense right off the bat so I don’t think that’s it. It’s like I wonder if I’m ready to date but ffs I’m almost 30 that’s odd if I’m not. I met up with someone for the first time in almost 2 years last week & I didn’t even stay for the whole time, I left after maybe 15 min bc I wasn’t feeling it (even though chatting went well on the app), I had a long day, wanted to leave before the drinks arrived since I didn’t want him to get charged & most of all I was worried he was gay (by his voice). I usually video chat before but moving fwd that’s non-negotiable. Oddly enough I still don’t think it’s my fault for being single this long, yes I’ve tried counseling/medication & it was a bust. Can an almost 30 yr old woman date while being anxious, insecure, reserved & close to being maybe on the asexual spectrum?

28F & I haven’t ever been in a LTR, I saw someone for a few months when I was 23 & that felt like settling. The bar is set even higher now & I’d rather be single than in a mediocre relationship. Ever since I was a teen I always felt like a lot of the girls were boy crazy & were so hyped about sex I thought they were overreacting. I thought I was a late bloomer & figured that feeling would happen to me eventually but it still hasn’t. I never really felt the pressure to date until I was close to graduating HS/ starting college & even then I had this feeling that felt kind of ick. I still do & the fact that I don’t care about sex at all to this day makes me think about asexuality. But I battle between not being sure if I actually want companionship, hence I use the dating apps very casually. Overthinking it & deep down does it just sound like I haven’t found the right person?