the guy i have been dating for 5 months randomly asked me if i feel like i am settling with him... why would he randomly ask this? does this mean he feels he is settling for me?
What does it mean if a guy asks me if I feel I am settling with him?
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The phrasing of this question is a bit ambiguous, so it's difficult to say exactly what he meant without more context.
It's possible that he may feel like he's not good enough for you and wants reassurance that you are happy with him and not settling for him. But it could also mean something completely different. It could also be that he's concerned that you may think you're settling for him.
If you're interested in knowing what he meant by this question, you should ask him directly. Just make sure to communicate clearly and respectfully. 🙂
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Either he's not on his purpose so doesn't know his own value / self. Or he subconsciously knows he can do better but is settling so projecting this instead of facing it. Or he thinks you are running out of options / time and settling for him because you can't do better. Or he thinks you can do better. There are so many potentials here, but none of them are good! It's also possible that he's had a glimpse of the common dual dating strategy a lot of women seem to follow, where they can't get the guys they are attracted to, to commit, so they focus on the lesser attractive guys that will..
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Sounds like he's just looking for reassurance. I've sometimes wondered if the women I'm dating are settling because it seems so effortless for women to get into relationships. If I were you I'd just ask for clarification before jumping to any scenarios or conclusions.
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More likely he feels insecure about himself or your relationship. If you're concerned you can do a couple things:
- Bring it up with him. If something's wrong on his end he might be willing to talk about it, but he may not be in that emotional space yet.
- Try to be a little more responsive/verbal about your feelings towards him. I'm not saying you aren't already ding this, but it would be one way to reassure him.
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forget about him
do you truly love this man or you are using him as a backup who you would replace in a heartbeat for someone else?
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Some guys can sense when a woman isn't totally crazy about him. He probably gets that from you
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Because he's young and stupid. Wait till you lose interest because he said that. Then after it happens a few more times with others girls he'll wise up k own not to say that anymore.
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Settling with him means settling down with him as a couple. If he asks settling for him, That is a big question on your own part to think over.
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He’s feeling insecure.
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He's gonna ask you to be his girl friend.
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