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so I have been talking to a guy for over a year now. very hard to communicate with. He putted the effort to talk to me everyday and be present. But because he is a workaholic he could not make a lot of time to spent some time toghether to really bond. At first I didnr mind because i have a good life of my own and i would make time to see him when it could. That would be taking a walk eating or spent some time alone in the car. He toldnme he is looking for something serious and wants to get married. I dated in between of the beginning stage with other guys. i stopped and only dated him the rest of the 5-6 months. When i would ask about our relationship he was very hessitant about the future but would still send me a lot of signals about marriage like houses he is looking for to live in and would say things like do you like this one and that one. So he would act really serious but when it came to talking about how serious it was always a open end. Like he was scared to commit. So he told me about his past relationshipsnot having a really serious relationship with any girl and that i feel different to him ( in a good way). I recently found out he talked to a girl in the beginninf of the talking stage and also would see her. ( hook up) But I know for a fact he was not planning to marry ( no offense, there are deeper lying things that i know about. Just know for a fact he would never marry her). 2 weeks ago i asked about our relationship again and i found out that after i had the talk with him he contacted the other girl again after not talking for months. When she asked about something serious he would ghost her. I had a conversation immediatly and he told me that he was not serious about her and he is with me and doesn't want to break contact becaus he wants me and wants to further invest more in the relationship and did wrong. He doesn't want me to leave but give him a chance to prove himself and told me he has a lot of commitment issues and trust issues with girls.

Many of us have experienced pain, trauma, suffering, and hardships in life and a lot of people channel those painful occurrences into a profit for themselves, for instance;

Richard Gadd turned his real traumatic, sad and painful encounters into a hit Netflix series called "Baby Reindeer, and he's making millions of dollars/pounds, He stated that sharing his experiences with the world has been cathartic and healing and many people appreciate his vulnerability, strength and ability to execute his trauma into series.

Frida Kahlo is another example she is a renowned Mexican artist who experienced immense physical and emotional pain throughout her life, including a near-fatal bus accident and a tumultuous marriage with Diego Rivera. Kahlo's art often depicted her suffering, but also her resilience and strength, making her a symbol of empowerment for many.

There's also Nelson Mandela A South African anti-apartheid revolutionary and political leader who endured many decades of grueling imprisonment and oppression under the apartheid regime. Despite the trauma and hardships he faced, Mandela emerged as a global symbol of reconciliation and forgiveness, leading his country to democracy as its first black president.

With this being said, Would you capitalize on your trauma?

Disclaimer: I want to acknowledge that talking about trauma can be deeply personal and sensitive. It's important to approach this conversation with empathy, understanding, and respect for everyone's unique experiences and boundaries. Please remember that participation is entirely voluntary, and there's no pressure to share anything you're not comfortable discussing💓.