Is this bad to do to him?

[simsx]

I've known this man for around 3 years. Then we grew close pretty fast through constant texting. One year ago he told me he had feelings for me and wanted to marry me etc. I liked him aswell back then but he was selling cocaine. Then we grew a close. But for 9 months he never bothered to see me once. But this same man constantly talks about how he loves me so I was confused. Then he was hospitalised and had to be on crutches from then until now. Then through that year I really did grow to love him, in love I'm not sure i still believe i need to see that properly in person. December i told him etc. So i offered to just chill with him on a bench near his house two hours away but he avoided it. Then winter wonderland was coming and i was telling him on the phone how I go every year. Then he said I wish I could take you, I said come as a joke and he said "I don't want you to see me in this state". So I left it. Then we started talking like a couple. And since I thought we were progressing and just waiting for his leg to heal I expected effort. His replies got shorter, the last time he called me was 5 months ago and before that was 8 months ago. But his love got very intense. I told my mother about him and he told his. She would talk to me over his phone. He would tell me he's in love with me marriage talks he wants our families to meet. Then it got too much for me and the lack of effort was pissing me off which I had brought up to him twice no change. So I told him I just want to be friends. He accepted but would constantly praise me n beg me to just be with him and I would laugh it off. Then he stopped selling and I was happy for him. He brought up twice how "he's a dickhead for not treating me right and it's his fault". Then he would still talk to me flirty 24/7. So I told him I'm gonna block him and he said why etc I said we don't need to go over this again. He then fell asleep so I did it. I don't feel like I need to explain myself.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sounds valid to me, the dude was playing too many games and if they weren't games and there was logical and good reasonings behind his behavior he did the childish thing to avoid communicating with you, if there was an issue he should have mentioned it to try and find a solution together, seems like you knew exactly what you were looking for with your time, he seemed indecisive.

[slatyb]

You lost me with "I liked him aswell back then but he was selling cocaine."

[Danny_dan92]

This is toxic. Find someone else

[QuietRunner]

No sounds like the right choice