How would you feel about this? Is he wrong for doing this?

[QuinnJane]

So at work this guy asked me if he could car pool with me for a few weeks because we live close and everyone else we work with lives far away. I said it was no problem and he offered to pay me gas money. I told my boyfriend about this and he completely freaked out and said he didn’t want me doing that so I told the guy at work I wasn’t able to anymore. It’s been a couple months and now my boyfriend is carpooling with a woman at work and i don’t think it’s fair that he told me no yet he is doing the same thing now. My drive was only 10 min with the guy and my boyfriend will be driving 50 min with this girl to and from work. He said it’s not a big deal and I told him the same thing when I was going to drive the guy I work with. Anyone else think this is wrong of him? I personally don’t care cause I’m not a jealous person and I trust him but still. I’m upset about it because he made such a big deal and was pissed at me when I was going to do it.

[Lazyrider67]

I work for a large multi-national company, and I've seen car pooling cause problems with relationships before. It's a difficult one, because you're in a closed environment with a person of the opposite sex, possibly for as long as a couple of hours each day. I never had to do it, so it didn't affect me personally, but I can see how it could be misunderstood. If the person you are pooling with is of a similar age and of the opposite sex, my suggestion would be to avoid it, as conflict with your partner is almost inevitable

[LikeALog]

It's a hypocritical, double standard by a control freak.

Yes. He is wrong for doing it.

If he doesn't understand that it's hypocritical, you can expect this kind of behavior for the rest of your relationship.

Do you want to be under his domination? It's not likely he'll change if he doesn't understand you feelings.

[ShadesOfAWoman]

It’s definitely wrong that he said that he didn’t feel comfortable with you doing that but then goes around and does the exact same thing. It’s a double standard that he has. It’s manipulation too. You should ask him why is it okay for him to carpool with someone from the opposite sex but not you? That seems suspicious to me.

[Anonymous]

It’s hypocritical, and kind of controlling for your boyfriend to do this and say you couldn’t do the same — While he’s the one driving much further and longer times with this woman.

[Curmudgeon]

Suggestion: You two introduce the respective car poolers to each other. 9 times out of 10 he will see that your carpool guy is a harmless dud, and likely vice versa with respect to his carpool lady.

[Ironic_Method]

There's two parts to this. Trust and force. If he doesn't trust you, that's a problem. If he's afraid of you getting overpowered and raped, that's a legitimate fear. You have to decide what's worth it and not.

[RealMarek]

Your boyfriend sounds like a real winner. You need to ask yourself if you want to live with jealousy, trust issues, and double standards for the long-term.

[exitseven]

he was wrong and you should have carpooled with the guy. If you do not have trust in a relationship it will fail.

[NamerOfStars]

That definitely sounds pretty hypocritical of him. I'd be mad, too.

[noohair]

Classic double standard. Sounds like he has trust issues. Sounds like an assho! e too.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your boyfriend is an insecure controlling asshole. Did you tell him how you felt?

[DaveJord]

Nope not fair, double standard.

[DaveJord]

Trust him or not you should be concerned...