Fell for a married man, broke up with him and now feel like I did something wrong?

[Anonymous]

I started talking to this guy a while back and truly have never felt more connected to anyone. We had been talking nonstop, had great chemistry, he did everything right. Regardless, I found out he’s married. I ended things between us but am feeling incredibly lost and heartbroken right now. I feel like I shouldn’t be feeling this way but I just am. Should I have heard him out? I blocked him on everything and feel awful and just don’t know what to do right now.

[Oliverlogan263]

I know this situation must be really tough and confusing. Breaking up is always hard, even more so when you had deep feelings. But don't beat yourself up - you did the right thing by ending it once you knew he was married. That's not a foundation for anything real or healthy to be built on.

It's normal to feel heartbroken after caring so much about someone, even if logically you know it couldn't work long-term. Give yourself time to grieve the loss. Focus on yourself and your worth - you deserve to be someone's #1, not their secret. The hurt will fade as you move on and meet new people.

Don't second-guess blocking him either. Keeping contact would only prolong the pain. Now you can start healing without his mixed signals messing with your head. Be proud you walked away with your dignity intact.

Reach out to supportive friends, stay busy, indulge in self-care. Soon this chapter will feel distant as new doors open. For now, let yourself feel sad but know better days are coming. You did nothing wrong - you followed your heart then followed through with doing what's right for you. Hang in there!

[molonski2]

Go back to him , marriage does not change anything focus on yourself and your own needs , being married doesn't stop alternate physical and mental desire.

Its an outdated concept.

[avery58]

No you totally did the right thing. Happiness doesn't come at the cost of someone else's, and you shouldn't let him use you or gaslight you either. He lied to you and broke your heart by doing so.

Loyalty is the most important characteristic for any relationship, if he's not loyal to her he wouldn't be to you.

[Anonymous]

What’s there to hear him out on? He’s married. He cheated on his wife and he deceived you. There’s nothing else you need to know or hear him out on. He’d cheat on you as well if he was with you.