I've been debating to make it official with this guy I've been dating for almost 8 months. I am getting irritated at how stressed I am with this and it shouldn't be which is one of the reasons why I want to be single is because I don't want to deal with that bf/gf bullshit. So I wasn't looking for a relationship but was open to dating and exploring after leaving a long-term relationship. Then this guy comes in and he's been really good to me and has open my eyes to a lot of things including hope. But my desire to be single is bigger than my desire to be with him. So I asked him to give me space but he hasn't been doing a good job with that. He doesn't understand what I mean by asking for space. He continues to be around and contacting me so I was thinking of just asking him for space with NO CONTACT so I can really have the time to myself and evaluate on what to do. So thats one option but then I just started thinking why not just keep this as it is? We're dating but not official. This is going against what I believe in which is dating for no longer than like 5 months. But this is a really tough situation because I can see myself with him just not at this time and him being clingy has made me less attracted to him. It's really annoying. So I was like why not just keep it casual, there's nothing making me decide to be official or not. To me there's no rush. The only thing is how he's gonna take it. I don't think hell take it well because this would mean not talking every day, me being able to talk to other guys, etc. I think hell be happier to do this than to give me the NO CONTACT space option but he's not gonna be happy once he realizes casually dating is not what he wanted which is me to be his traditional girlfriend. You can say this would be a situationship which it is already but just prolonging it until we're both over it I guess OR until I am finally ready to make it official but I don't know how soon that will be.
Is it okay to do this with him?
