He will tell me he’s done with me... But then later act like everything’s fine and say we are still friends... and that he was just going through it... but when I get upset and say it I’m “too emotional” and need to “get out of my feelings” he knows I have feelings for him, and he denies any feelings towards me... but he’s always so back and forth on being friends.. when he says he is done I will not contact him he always contacts me first...
Like he’s said this to me the other day.
Why is this okay for him? but when I do it it’s not?
If you know his behavior is unacceptable then you have to decide what you’ll continue to tolerate or put in check. A man that continues to come back is a man that you rejected because you either felt it wouldn’t work or he needed to work on himself. Once a guy shows that he doesn’t us feel respect for you and you continue to leave the door open for him to walk in then you’re allowing him to come back. If you decided to block him today, cut off all contact I can’t guarantee that he would not contact you for long. He would contact you to see if you would fall for his excuse once more but he’ll be onto the next chick as you stated.
Have to learn how to step your foot down to or some guys will walk all over you. In my years of living and getting to know different men I’ve never heard them use any derogatory remarks towards me. You don’t have to get out of character to show a man that you do not tolerate certain behavior because he’ll feel your energy by your actions.
It’s okay for him and it’s okay for you as well because you’re accepted the disrespect instead of blocking him. By the first message that should already be your hint to exit stage left and no longer entertain the conversation. In life you have to put your pride aside and know that it’s okay to not always get the last word.
You continue to stick around it’ll only get more verbally aggressive. The power is in your hands not his.
If he does this often, why keep putting up with it? The more you put up with it, the more it'll happen... There's a lot of hyprocritical people these days with double standards.. It's okay when they are a certain way and expect you to accept it but then don't want to accept it or be treated that way themselves. But then, don't keep giving time/attention to people like that because there's people out there that aren't like that or won't treat you like that. We want to always blame how someone treats us on just them, but if we stay/allow it do nothing to try to change it or leave the person if it doesn't change then it's our fault as well... We have as much if not more say/control in our happiness than others do unless/until we give up that control to them.
Cuz you feel he's superior to you in this relationship because you know you like him more than he likes you, which is why you let him get away with this immature behavior. Nobody is letting him be this way other than yourself so ask yourself that question don't ask us.. 🤝
He's manipulating you, by treating you poorly and making you feel inferior. You should never tolerate that kind of behavior from a "friend" much less a boyfriend - you should never act like this to someone else yourself either. This is toxic behavior, and it's the kind of thing that should end your relationship permanently.
Why settle for a man that is indecisive? Decisions should be instinctively applied to what will put you in a better position. He's doubting himself and i dont see how this will end well in either of your favor.
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I don't know, but I am in love with him... he makes comments about us being like “Bonnie and Clyde” and says I’m his rider and shit but then out of no where says we can’t be friends. So I don't know
I would know she doesn't take me seriously talking wreckless like that. Id take my interests elsewhere because Bonnie would never tell clyde some fake ass crap like that
Smarten ur ass up... its a control game... it makes you feel inferior... Your self-esteem goes down and he influences your behaviour... psychology 101...
This looks like the beginning of a mentally abusive relationship. You can just say it's indecisiveness when it's thus cruel. I've been in one of these relationships before, and it all starts with mindf***ery like this. Be careful with this dude. I can't just tell you to up and leave because you love him, even though that's what I would I do now after experiencing these types of things.
