Why is it okay for women to body shame men?

[Anonymous]

Why is it okay for women to body shame men?

Why is it okay for a woman to judge a man based on:
Height
Looks
Social Status
Income
Penis Size
Body

[Moochii]

As if a lot of men aren’t guilty of shaming women too 🙄 NOT saying I agree or condemn women shaming men.. because Body shaming is NEVER okay.. I DO NOT AGREE WITH BODY SHAMING EITHER SEXES.. There. Before someone tries to fight me on this... 😒🙄🤦🏻‍♀️😂 but it’s fair to say both sexes are guilty of getting at each other..
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. I’m going to pick at your words a bit, so please take no offense to this okay? I get what you’re saying, and I’m not invalidating your feelings because you may have had women pick at you for your appearance or rip you down.. Again, I’m so sorry if you had any bad experiences with women. I promise you not all of us are awful and body shame men.. Just some bad apples in the bunch am I right? Anyways, here we go:

Judging is DIFFERENT than body shaming. Body shaming is to mock someone’s appearance, and humiliate them.. Judging in this case, is more of having an opinion or preference..
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Have a nice day now sir 🙂

[Moochii]

Who disliked me? A pissed off insecure dude? BAHAHA

[PatriceONeal]

"Who disliked me? A pissed off insecure dude? BAHAHA"👹

[StingRayxoxo]

Good question... It isn't ok for anyone to body shame anyone.
Also, just because someone stayes a preference, doesn't mean is shaming. It depends on how it is worded.

[AaronKrieger]

Why is it okay for men to body shame women? Guys hold their own standards for women as well even outside of the standards for bodies. The thing is most men and women don't hold ridiculous standards. If they do it's because they're young. Everyone get's judged on their looks and social status. Your social status can say the type of personality you have while looks are more based on someone's preferences.

I've never understood this need to complain about others having standards when you can just work on improving yourself to the ideal version and if someone rejects you for not being their type then you move on. Usually the people that do complain don't do that.

[weegin]

Because men already rule society with an iron fist and oppress women cruelly with all their imposed societal standards, so it's only fair to mete out justice in the form of being cruel right back to our patriarchal overlords. /s

[PrincessGrail]

No one judges anyone based on penis size

[felixthecat90]

Cone on now. You know that's not true.

[chris_987]

There literally a whole porn genre dedicated to white women having sex with black guys because there husband penis is to small. The fact that women continue to act like it’s not a thing makes me know that women aren’t living in reality.

[FirmlyAboveAverage]

False but ok

[PrincessGrail]

@FirmlyAboveAverage thanks. That sounded false to me.

[FirmlyAboveAverage]

No, I meant the part about no one judging anyone on penis size 😂

[Logorithim]

It's not OK for anyone to body shame anyone else?

[Izumiblu]

Most of those are potential factors in selecting an SO?

There’s a difference between judging and shaming by the way. Like it or not physical attraction is part of a healthy relationship. Therefore it’s completely ok to judge based on those factors.

[rjroy3]

Agreed, but men are definitely shamed in these areas at times. It's not JUST judging for terms of dating. Don't have to go far to see women who will laugh at a man for being too short, but will go out of their way to call fat women cute or "a little bigger" as a means to soften it.

It's more or less socially acceptable when women do it and other women go along with it, stay silent or take part. I've seen girls who are generally nice people do it aswell. It's not just some rare bitchy women that do it.

[Izumiblu]

@rjroy3 hmmm I get men that go out of their way to call me Thai lady boy.

Life sucks. It’s unfair. Don’t sweat the things you can’t fix because it’s not true of every person you meet

[rjroy3]

obviously. Just saying we can all be honest about the situation rather than trying to sugarcoat things when it's women doing it. We can allow for men to talk about issues without having to say "well what about men?".

[weasley8]

Body shaming and judging are different things. Judging is something that everyone does privately in their heads. Some just do it more than others.

Body shaming is when you make it public. That is when it becomes unacceptable, regardless of who the perpetrator is.

[GraveDoll]

Not sure how you can narrow it down so narrowly. Humans are just cruel. Always has been. nothing to do with who is who or genders.

Also, I personally do not like fat men. How is that body shaming? I just would not be attracted to it. We date who we will feel the most comfortable with at 5'8. why would I date a short guy? If im not satisfy sexual. Again why I should stay. Doesn't mean someone else would be turned off

I mean preference is a thing.

[chris_987]

I don't know it shameful to say that I hate girls with flat asses?

[GraveDoll]

@chris_987

no not in the slightest

I have a flat ass and I could care less. small boobs again could care less. Why should I?

I have plenty of other eyes that do and that the beauty of preferences.

Decides too many men and women on earth to worry about another group who dislike whatever.

[chris_987]

Yeah but girls still get implants because there ashamed

[GraveDoll]

@chris_987

Guess what.

This one is not a shame of anything that she as born with. The key to having the best no fucks and attitude is I stay in the gym and push my body to the max and take care of myself. There nothing here to fix. My body healthy and I can move.

And it impossible to "please" everybody so why bother.

[chris_987]

I agree, I’m just saying not all girls are like that

[GraveDoll]

@chris_987

sadly I do agree but
well I will keep sharing the message

xoxo

[Anonymous]

Body shaming is uncalled for in either sex. I've known men with tiny dicks, who were short, poor, unattractive, physical slobs. If I find them unattractive, I keep it to myself and disengage. Saying anything is mean. Everyone should be in the MIss Manners club. There is only one thing anyone should be ashamed of: having bad manners.

[Anonymous]

First off, who says we all shame men on such things?
I must have missed that as myself and the women I'm around don't do that when we discuss men.

Also, while we're talking about judging people, aren't men just as guilty about judging women on our:

Weight/figure
Bust size
Butt
How we dress
Education/intelligence

It's not for anyone to judge others, yet some people do it anymore.

[EpicDweeb]

I think the problem being highlighted is that it's very common to shame both men and women who shame women's body types but no one seems to shame either men or women for shaming men's body types.

[PatriceONeal]

Women are downplaying and/or deflecting like they always do. In society it is far more socially acceptable for women to shame men. Looking at the comments you can tell just how deeply ingrained it is to not ever be allowed to judge women and try to misrepresent it as something everyone does.

[ForbesMagazine]

Women aren't held up to the same standards as men.

People actually have control over their weight, if you're overweight you can lose it. Granted, it's harder for some people, but it's still possible. However, if someone is short, there's literally nothing they can do about it.

Yet, if someone makes fun of a women's weight he's apparently the most evil person ever.. but if someone makes fun of a short guy then it's somehow okay.

[ForbesMagazine]

I can see the justification for body shaming over unhealthy traits that can be changed, but if there's a trait someone can't change then it's not appropriate.

[thegirlfromthething]

Judging is okay, body shaming is not. It’s natural for people to form opinions about each other but openly making fun of someone is just cruel and unnecessary.

[EpicDweeb]

I'm asking out of genuine curiosity... do you think it's equally valid for a man to say he doesn't want to date a woman who is fat because it's clear to him that she doesn't live a very healthy life style and doesn't take care of herself, as it is for a woman to say she doesn't want to date a guy with a dad-bod?

[thegirlfromthething]

@EpicDweeb Sure. People should be physically attracted to their partners and have compatible lifestyles.

[JohnPrestwick]

I don't gather society thinks it's 'okay'... most people would be against it if the issue is raised. As for 'judging' (as opposed to 'shaming') we can't truly control whom we're attracted to.

[SoWhatHuh]

No body said it was ok, but it doesn't keep people from doing that nonetheless. You can't control what others think or do, what you can control is how you take it and react.

[KelliHolland]

You have to remember this was probably one or two woman that you’re using to make a topic based off of how you judged them. Not every woman is like this.

[Smiley_face101]

Most smart mature women dont judge men like that. I judge a man by his brains and his ambitions.
Looks is not that important, when we are old we will all be ugly anyway.

[MackToday]

"Body shaming" A made up bull shit political word. Chicks can talk all the shit they want who listens to some dumb THOT in the first place? A woman like that is like a monkey jabbering in a tree, she's just some THOT with mental problems.

[slatyb]

Do you mean publicly? This doesn't happen nearly as often as men publicly body-shame women. Or are you just complaining that single women have standards?

[DeeDeeDeVour]

It's not okay for anyone to body shame anyone else.
Unfortunately, many of us can't help ourselves sometimes.

[MainePrincess]

I have to agree with you.

I remember that land whale model that people tried to say was sexy she was like 270 and fat guys do get a lot of shit

I've been that bitch sometimes, but at least I admit it

[BrookieCookie0422]

It shouldn’t be. It’s... dare I say it... sexist? It’s sexist for anyone to believe women can treat men this way but shouldn’t be treated the same way back.

[MissDawn7961]

it is not ok for anyone to body shame any one , but if a man does it to a women then she has the right to do it back to him too ! Thanks