This definitely wouldn't be okay in my house. My mom makes sure we clean our rooms at least once a week. My brother is more messy than my sister and me but she makes sure our rooms are clean.
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When I was a kid my room used to be like that, but I cleaned it pretty often so it wasnāt that bad
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Well, when I was living with my parents, my room ended up like this because anything that was mine in the common areas, they would just open my door, and throw it in. They refused to provide me hangers for anything to be put in my closet. They refused to allow me to have anything resembling a trashcan. They ignored or forgot when my laundry basket broke. They never established a laundry day for me to was my dirty laundry. Then when I lost things, they would blame me. When my room was a mess, they would blame me.
Now that I live on my own, I'm extremely well organized not that I have MY OWN common space that I control, and can keep things in.
As kids grow into teens, they need to be allowed to expand past their bedrooms into the common area, just like you. That room isn't going to be big enough for them forever.
Some ways you can help them become organized:
1. Talk to them about where they believe some things should go. Talk to them about why their room is a mess, and make compromises to where things can go in the common areas of your home. Also ask them what items they need to make organization easier for them. They need your support I'm this. It might be your house, but its also their house until they turn 18 and move out. You are their parent, but you are also their roommate. Thats just a fact of life. Communication is key to any healthy relationship.
2. Make sure they have an easily accessible laundry hamper, 2-3ft tall, in their room. Baskets are going to be too small. Also make sure they have a small to medium sized trash can in their rooms. This will make it easier to keep garbage from collecting in their room and attracting bugs.
3. If they leave something out, don't toss it in their room, that makes the mess YOUR fault not theirs. Ask them to put it in the designated area it belongs, and if they tell you it belongs there AND has a logical reasoning for it to be there, make the compromise. Apart of communication is listening.
4. Add cleaning their room to the list of chores they should be doing, on a day where they aren't already cleaning another room, or have after school activities. Once a week should be sufficient to keep their room reasonable under control, and as they clean it regularly, they will discover on their own that its easier to keep clean if they just keep up with it. If you add it on a day where they are doing something else, they may feel overwhelmed, or to tired to clean their rooms. Cleaning their room might not seem like a lot, but it's a whole room. More than one room can be overwhelming for a teen.
5. If they put something somewhere, and it makes sense for it to be there, for example; an MP3 player next to the family PC in the living room, ask them about it BEFORE moving it.
6. Establish their own laundry day. Where they can clean just their laundry, bedding, plushies, and what ever else they need to have washed.
Teens are learning how to be their own adults, and suffocating them into one small room, with no support, won't help them learn to be organized adults. It only foster resentment that will last for years after they move out.
P. S; Never post your minor children's faces on the internet, or your adult child's face without their expressed and informed consent, especially for something so trivial. This shit is forever.Parenting goes way deeper than any of this in my opinion. If parents focus so much attention on this kind of shit then they are the problem. Psychologically if we are excited about life and truly happy in our environment we tend to auto clean and keep up our belongings. But true happiness and true sense of life have to be the forefront of the child's life. For example, he shouldn't have the tablet to begin with, he should've been shown how to see the world better. He shouldn't have wanted a tablet. No one stops to realize the insanity just handing a child a tablet does and just giving into the newest iphone trend or gaming system. Hobbies are meant to be beneficial and there's very few games worth anyone's hours of life that they have left. We're all bought into the trends. there's happiness to be had and to be seen with that as well, just isn't as rich as it can be in reality. To me it seems thats why the room is messy. Not because the kid is dumb or the parents are just dumb. They're all lost in this shitty excuse of a life we are all almost forced to live. Even the happiest families I've seen barely have real time with eachother. Their vacations aren't enjoyable. Their past relationships are tethering control over their children because the law says so. The only way to raise a kid is first to know you've grown up completely and spread your knowledge and understanding as far and wide as you could then be the best guidance and wisdom for them. Be way more than any other parent you've seen and make sure its all for them. Dont control, just teach and inspire and if life inhibits you're ability to do so get out of that job or whatever it is immediately.
it is not okay, but it isn't that bad either... lol
it would be really bad if rodents have moved in and dirt has built up and stuff like that... but there are people who just don't bother much with organization and prefer their "organized chaos" lol, or to straighten up from time to time and not every single dayThere was one time when I was a kid, my sister and I went so long without cleaning our room that my dad threw all of our stuff in our closet.
Then we were forced to clean out our closet. 😂
I think it's just one of those things some parents forget about because they probably rarely go in their kids' room (s) after a certain age.No offense but it appears these kids don't care and keep a messy bedroom, the parents need to do what my late uncle did with my cousin, she wouldn't pick things up and her dad brought garbage bags full of toys she wasn't picking up, down to my grandmas house, and he told her to put them out for the garbage or burn them in the coal furnace.
That's hilarious because NO it's not. But then again... I'm kinda a hypocrite because I do this. But I'm sane enough to know that it's not okay. I'm always blaming my creative side. Like Albert Einstein never combed his hair. It's kinda messy like my mind but this still doesn't make it okay.
Why is what okayākids using electric devices in their bedrooms? They could be doing homework on those things after just getting home from school for all the information given. It's okay for kids to use electronic devices privately in a lot of cases. There should be guidelines, but whether those are strictly enforced with a firewall or screen recording orālike most house rulesājust with the honor system is up to the parent. Some parents don't want their kids using the internet at all unsupervised. Some allow only a certain amount of time on devices. It all varies by parent and child.
your room, car, purse is a representation of your mind. I was a very disorganized child and for the most part still am a disorganized person because I have a lot going on in my head. a clean room is a sign of a quiet or simple mind. someone who doesn't have much to think about generally because they aren't capable of it. brilliant men and women are generally the most disorganized people. teenagers are likewise disorganized people because they are in the midst of puberty and there is a long of changes going on so their brains are very disorganized. there is absolutely nothing wrong with disorganization provided it is random things and not trash.
Bad parenting.
Take away those little fucker's devices. Make them do chores, starting with organizing their rooms.That's nothing compared to how my ex best friend's room looked. Literally every inch of floor was covered, and she even had a plate with food stains. You wanted to sit somewhere, you had to push stuff out of the way.
Doesn't look to bad. Just some disorganized clutter
Nothing wrong with mess. So long as it's not food or drink mess. Not everyone cares for perfectly straight rooms that look like they belong in a show home.
As a man I always kept my room organized because that's how my parents raised me. Now, I said organized not decorated.
On the other hand, my wife is a mess. Even since we were dating it was all over the place. Her room looks like the guy in the picture. But it doesn't bother me.
growing up my mom had all sorts of rules which as we got older changed over time...
it us to be take out the trash every day than it became take out the trash when it was full; it use to be set the table for dinner than it became serve yourself at the counter than come to the tableWhy not? It's kinda messy overthere but living in a perfect clean house isn't making me feel better honestly. I like it when a house looks s little bit like someone actually lives in it, instead of perfectly tidy and ordent
Nothing a closed door won't fix. I don't have kids, but when they start ruining the whole house is when I would get annoyed.
I suppose it wouldn't surprise you I have clean laundry I haven't put away for three years or more. Depression will do that to you.It's not okay, but it's just clutter. An hour of picking things up and organizing is all the rooms need.
Tidy Ms MNM... lol
Good question.
One of my sisters is messy like that... lol
Damn. If you think thatās badā¦. Iāve been to homes where you couldnāt walk in because of piles of pizza boxes, leftover food, bottles, and trash everywhere.
Itās not ok. People lack self discipline and control. This is the result of a consumer based, pleasure first society.
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