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I met this guy 3 weeks ago at a concert. I went by myself. His friends approached me and we ended up hanging out for the night. He flirted but never made a move. His one friend was drunk and got my number before I left for the night. Next day, his friend asked me out, I politely declined, explaining I had chickened out from asking the guy I was interested in for his number. The friend said the guy heard me telling another guy I had a boyfriend (I don’t, I do this when I’m out alone to easily reject guys). The friend also sent me the guys number and said he thought I should text him. I did. We texted everyday for a week and he called me 3 or 4 times to chat. First time he called he said he was not a good texter and preferred calling (if I was good with that). Throughout the week we got to know each other a bit. He made sure I knew he lives a few hours away (he is moving soon tho), and that he is 9 years older than me. The last call we had was ~ half an hour and went really well. He teased me and called me nicknames, said his friends thought I was really cool, and mentioned different things we could do together. He told me he was going on a trip that weekend and at a music festival the following weekend so he would be super busy. He told me he was just a call away before we hung up.
I texted him the next morning responding to something he sent the night before. I asked a question about something we discussed on the call and he never responded to the text. A week after our last call, I had not heard from him so I texted again. I said I might be able to make time if he wanted call me again sometime that week. I figured I was likely getting ghosted, so I mentioned if he wasn’t feeling it that I understood and it would be no hard feelings. He texted back a couple days later adamantly saying he definitely wanted to keep talking. He never called though, and that was about 5 days ago now. Should I consider myself ghosted? If not, is it likely he’s just not very interested?

So my boyfriend and I have been together for the last 3 years and been the best girlfriend possible for him. I sacrifice what I can/need to in order for him to be happy like spending money on gifts or whatever he needs with other things. Even though this might sound unhealthy, I went past my comfort zones/boundaries to please him. For example, he started to withhold sex because I wouldn’t get on birth control for him. I got on a method, not one he preferred, and it was fine for some time until he wanted more (the method he stated at the beginning). I told him I wasn’t comfortable with that but had to get it in order to receive anything intimate again.

also when you read this, please don’t judge.

recently though, he took it upon himself to purchase me a laptop that I need for graduate school which I appreciated a lot. However, he planned on buying it from a sketchy site and I begged him to buy it elsewhere. He said he wanted to do what he want, and got the laptop. I drove a long way to get it from him, and when I got home the laptop isn’t connecting to the internet which is a huge problem. Then the responsibility fell onto me to solve it when he could’ve made sure the laptop was fine while it was in his possession for a week or so. I had to drive more to a repair store and wait hours for them to tell me it cannot be fixed. I told him after and he claimed that the repair “isn’t that much,” and how I should’ve requested a cheaper laptop instead for school. I asked for the return label so I can mail it off to get a refund for him since he wasn’t going to do that and he said he was “too tired” to do so but wouldn’t give me his account information so I can do it myself. I’m not sure how to deal with this behavior or what to think of it considering how well I’ve treated him and he didn’t have to worry about a thing. Like I bought him a phone last year and it’s been working fine since. What should I do? Please explain.