My boyfriend Matt (26) and I (23) finally said goodbye to our relationship today. We've been dating for 3 years and 3 months. He does truly really care about and love me, however, he says he needs to work on himself a lot more and doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship anymore. He wants to wait a long time. I've been feeling very depressed, emotional, and upset because I want to work on myself more, too. He feels it just wasn't meant to be... I feel as if I failed somewhat as a girlfriend to him. We had many great memories together, I loved spending time with his family and so did he with my family. I know I shouldn't, but one of my biggest fears is that he may move on and find somebody else in the long run. I just can't accept this. I can't let go. Wondering if things will ever be the same. I know it sounds terrible. Most people agreed that we made a perfect pair. I'm in a lot of pain and despair.
Wondering how I should go about dealing with a break-up like this. We were so close to each other. We were soulmates it seemed like. We did leave the relationship on good terms. We agreed to still be friends, too.
My question is though, how should I go about this? Should I just move on and forget about this guy? Or should I hold on and see what happens in the next 6 months-1 year? I honestly don't know he'll decide to do, considering that he feels the same way I feel. He honestly is a great guy; very social, fun, loving, independent, hard working, kind, has a big heart, etc. I just hope and pray that someday we might find each other again and have a way better relationship next time. I just don't know what I should expect from a guy like him.
... what should I do and what should I expect? This is my first breakup.
