Ex slept with someone else soon after breakup?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up for about a month after being together for a year and a half. He slept with someone else during the one month (ish) period we were broken up. Though I had expected/hoped we'd get back together, I don't think he thought we could work things out and I think he saw the breakup as final. Now he wants to get back together and though he originally lied, he came clean admitting he had slept with someone else he met on an dating app after we broke up in an effort to try to move on/get over me, but realized he couldn't get over me and that he only wanted to be with me. He apparently slept with this woman twice and hung out with her a handful of times. I didn't hookup or date anyone else during the breakup, and I really expected he wouldn't either. Should I be able to forgive him? Is the relationship irreparable now? I didn't think I would be able to forgive him if he had slept with other people after breaking up, which is why I didn't want to break up in the first place.

[dragonfly6516]

Did you leave him? If so, it's just a rebound.

Did he leave you? If so, he wanted her all along, but didn't want to "cheat".

I had a guy for that to me once. He wanted me, but he was in a relationship. He left his girlfriend, which I didn't even know about, dated me long enough to get it, then was back with her literally the next day.

[missyfa]

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[Regneir]

You broke up. Anything that he does after that is irrelevant to you and vice versa. If someone wants to try to mend things now, you either are ok with that or not... and that makes the decision for you easy.

[Summer-Evenings]

same story as yours, except that one time turned into another relationship. run. if he really cared he wouldn't have doe it, as well it will blight your time with him and wear you down.

[Anonymous]

You're 30 years old or so, and your ex is in the same range? You're not in high school any more, need I remind you, because it seems like you've forgotten. This is the sort of shit kids do.

"Though I had expected/hoped we'd get back together" --- why break up in the FIRST place if you're going to hope to get back together?
"I don't think he thought we could work things out and I think he saw the breakup as final." ---- And you deduced this because he had sex with someone else within a month? Wrong. He's a guy, and he wanted to know that he was still a stud and could back in bed with a woman quickly.
"Now he wants to get back together... he originally lied, ... blah, blah, blah... in an effort to try to move on/get over me, but realized he couldn't get over me and that he only wanted to be with me." --- You believe this because, why, that's what he told you? It's FAR more likely he came back to you because the sex with HER wasn't as good. If it been phenomenal, you wouldn't have heard from him for quite some time, if at all.

"I really expected he wouldn't (sleep with anyone) either." - Why? You weren't a couple anymore, you just wanted him to miss you SO much he'd crawl back. When he didn't DO that, you ask this strange question -
"Should I be able to forgive him?" Forgive him for what - cheating on your fantasy? You were broken up, you were free of any obligations or promises, and now you think he needs your forgiveness?

The only question here is do you believe him or just WANT to believe him, but he's done zero to warrant or need any forgiveness from you. My strong advice is if you take him back, don't have sex with him till Christmas and see what happens.

[JustCallMeLeon]

You broke up. So both of you can enjoy gangbangs freely. Thats the point if breaking up. So if you accuse him of sleeping around, your argument is invalid. Anyways. Its up to you.

[madaman]

You were broken up and it was fair game. If you did the same shot your girlfriends would say he's a dick for not forgiving you