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Not the surface description of east orthodox "joyful sorrow" of standing at the cross willingly. But detached from theology. We all have heard that pleasure and pain are two sides of the same human experience. It is my assumption that 100% everyone here took it the opposite way than mystics and poets ever intended.

Those who chase the laughter, get used to laughter, then eventually reach for pain to laugh at because jokes aren't a strong enough substrate anymore. Laughing is like catch and release fishing, find the target and then the laughter is coughing out all feelings. When offended or ashamed, an ordinary troll will find something to laugh at. Even his own pain. Just to restore the comfortable hollowness. Then there is psychosis where people can't stop laughing at what is sad.

If you strengthen your sorrow muscle, you chase that which requires empathy. You then grow your soul to accommodate all the sorrow. And soon you blur the lines between pleasure and pain. You step into the opposite territory and still use the same mourn muscle as a means of appreciating jokes. Instead of coughing everything out, you absorb and digest what's supposed to be funny.

Pain? Pleasure? Doesn't matter. Certainly fewer people get offended if you digest their jokes (don't laugh at what is funny) than if you spit on their wounds (laugh at the unfunny). And you certainly don't unconsciously project onto others your own shadow that you run away from if you embrace it with all the sorrow necessary. And as opposed to seeking a stronger stimulus just to feel alive, weaker and weaker stimuli work just as well to make you feel alive. Willingly enduring sorrow, emotionally, not physically or mentally, is a prerequisite to being able to feel joy.

Like if someone told you they like to read and they list only comic books what would you think?

Anyway im getting back into reading my x-men comics hehe

So as a quick recap:

This girl I've been helping out has been acting kinda funny around my friends. She flirts with me and is very friendly but around the friend groups I try to include her in it's like she tries to play all sorts of weird games to sort of steal my social standing in the group.

Then she tried to manipulate me I told her it was a nice try but not very convincing.

But after all that I figured she probably spent a lot of time around some pretty shitty people. I always knew this process wouldn't exactly be easy.

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Were at a friend's place and she's telling me about her aunt who passed away and how she was upset she had to find out through Facebook.

Now she's talked about her aunt who she was close to before but when she started talking about this one, I thought it was two different aunts.

In my defense she's Hispanic. I thought you people have huge families. Anyway, she starts acting like an ass and we get into a bit of a spat and she blocks me.

It wasn't until a couple days after that it clicked with me that the dead aunt and the one she liked so much were the same.

Not that it undid that much shit she had done but fuck I messed up pretty bad 😂.

So ya basically I decided to put my foot down but only when she was freaking out over something legitimate and I didn't realize it because I misunderstood her telling me about a fresh and traumatic experience she was going through so from her point of view... I'm sure it wasn't a fun place to be.

Anyway I explained what happened to her and things have been peaceful. I'm still wondering if I'm gonna bring her out with my friends and family for the 4th of July.

What's the worst that could happen right