Should I pursue a guy I liked the idea of, or just move on?

[Anonymous]

There’s a guy who I had a crush on then later realized I like the idea of him more than him.

However we are compatible (except for my looks which are slowly fading somewhat), and I wonder if it’s better than being so alone.

Do you think I should forget about him as I like the idea of him more than him or see if it could turn into something?

[Anonymous]

You should give him a real chance. I'm sure you've given him plenty of reasons to be wary as well, but no one is perfect. I don't know how well you know this guy, but actually getting to know him would be the most enlightening action you could take.

[Asker]

In my description I was honest about my looks kind of fading

I’m not saying he’s not good enough. I’m saying he doesn’t give me butterflies in my stomach.

Plus maybe he doesn’t even like me who knows

[WhitneySnow]

You could try to get to know him and see if the reality even comes close to your idealized vision of him

[Asker]

I guess I’m not sure I’m attracted to him.

[WhitneySnow]

Then don’t bother unless you could see a future with him

[melnc]

If you're not sure, that's already your answer... let him go.

[Asker]

I could use a boyfriend

Someone to talk to

[melnc]

So you mean a friend, not a boyfriend. Just someone to talk to, right?