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Get over your insecurities and make a conversation with anyone!

Get over your insecurities and make a conversation with anyone!

I've always been very insecure about my appearance and this stopped me to meet new people. Why and how? Well, I was always thinking that people are paying attention to my looks and they are judging me. In a group of people I was always standing behind, not even finding the courage to engage myself in the conversation, just listening to others and their opinions. I was thinking : whatever! If I'll say something everybody will be like :"Ugh! Why is she talking to us? Why does she thinks her opinion is important? She's nobody." .And this thought stopped me from saying something.

And...that was in a group of classmates and people I knew. Do I have to tell you how I was when it came to talking to strangers? Ha! I was awful and boring and I couldn't make even a small talk.

I've changed. Believe it or not, now I am very talkative and people seem to open for me. I've simply changed the way I was starting conversations after the usual "Hi!".

If you are struggling with the same issue, I might have some tips for you, and a video I recently discovered:

I ask people where they are from...works everytime. After they are telling me where they're from, I am rapidly thinking of something nice I've heard about that place. If I never heard about that place, what do you think? Exactly! I am asking them how it is.

Always ask for opinions- here it depends on the place we are in. If we are at a party I am asking them what do they think about the theme of that party, for example. Let them open up to you, let them talk and ask you for your opinion as well.

Compliment people- but genuinely. Instead of just saying "You look gorgeous in this dress!", try adding "This color seems to suit you. Great choice! And I also like they way you've accessorized it.". This might lead to a longer conversation.

Call they're name while you are talking to them- this is one of the best tricks, trust me. They will feel you so friendly and they will know that if you retained their name, you might like them and be interested in meeting them.

Now, I am letting you watch this video. I recently discovered it and I was surprised and happy to see that I was already using some of these tips long before even knowing about its existence. This might seem that we can naturally find different ways to make conversations and meet people.


This whole channel is very nice: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsT0YIqwnpJCM-mx7-gSA4Q .

I recently discovered it and I like it. Give it a look if you are interested.

I hope I brought you something new and useful.

Get over your insecurities and make a conversation with anyone!
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