Dealing with insecurities!

[zombiebabe]

Insecurity can be very harmful to someone who is concerned and is more common than it seems to be.

What does it mean?

Emotional insecurity or simply insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one's self-image or ego.

How can insecurities affect one's life?

Insecurities can affect various aspect of our lives like:

1. Our sexuality.

2. Our age.

3. Our weight.

4. Our height.

5. Our career.

6. Our finances.

7. Our intellectual life.

8. Our creative life.

What are the causes of insecurities?

1. Bullying.

2. Body image.

3. Learning problems.

4. Constantly changing residence.

5. Guilt.

6. Isolation.

7. Being in someone's shadow.

8. Failures.

9. Parental expectations /over critical parents.

It's like at a certain moment of our lives we face an issue which will forever have an effect on our future and our perception of things...

What are the things insecure people do that can make things worst?

1.They miss out on the best things life has to offer.

2.They never attempt to be themselves.

3.They hold themselves back.

4.They avoid meeting new people.

5.They live in a world of "fear of judgement".

6.They don't "give their all" in things they do due to the fear of being not good enough in the eyes of others.

Any possible ways to overcome insecurities?

1. Think of your positive qualities

2. Remember the success you've had so far

3. Write down your fears

4. Being objective (at least trying to)

5. Question yourself about it

6. Stop psyching yourself out

7. Don't be paranoid

[martyfellow]

Most of us in the US are raised to kowtow to the wealthy, Most of the girls in the mainstream culture listen opemouthed and believe whatever they say, will generally have sex ONLY with rich guys or their gay camp followers, often...
That
Why I prefer girls from minority culture communities who aren't usually like that...

Intellectually, a small clique of wealthy, mostly Jewish and gay neocons was able to guide us into the Iraq war, and get millions killed, and all of us in debt for generations to come.' That is just ONE example, whole books could be written.+

We all know about this, but most of us are too insecure to even MENTION this elephant in our room...

[zombiebabe]

thanks for your opinion

[Paris13]

Beautifully Done, @zombiebabe... I find on here there are many people who are Insecure. But Confidence needs to be Built to try and overcome it. It is something that many people have trouble working on. And it can take time, sometimes never be accomplished.
I feel that if many people would get Out in the world and learn to Socialize, it would build up their Confidence and alleviate that some feeling of Insecurity.
However, if people a person associates with, is making them feel Insecure about themselves or knocking down any self esteem, cut them out like a cancer, they are a downer.
Thanks for sharing as always. xx

[zombiebabe]

thanks! you're welcomed :)

[Paris13]

Oh, so welcome, @zombiebabe:)) xxoo

[zombiebabe]

:) :)

[Paris13]

Hi, @zombiebabe, I was relaxing today and being for a few years as you know I have had a husband out in Egypt and we Breakup and Makeup a lot because Mainly he feels I have not been back to be with him and have even cheated. The only time I feel Insecure with a relationship with something like this is when and I do not believe they mentioned it Feeling he doesn't love me anymore because I have let him down. I get jealous easily because I feel unloved with all of the attention and love he used to give me, and with Not giving him achance to 'Love' me before as he used to because I allow a fight t happen, I feel Insecure with this... Feeling unloved is very important of being insecure... it can cause jealousy for no reason because you feel unloved and not good for any relationship. xx

[Hopefuldreamer8]

I have major insecurities because of my looks. I don't have an attractive face, and it's something I could probably ignore, however it's people who bother me about it. I thought when I was younger that it people would leave me alone when I got older. I didn't think adults would bully, but I can honestly say that other adults have been more rude to me about my appearance than the kids were when I was in school.

So I don't go out much except to hike or go to work really. I've developed social anxiety because of peoples comments.

[zombiebabe]

oh man that's not good! i've thought that people get more mature as they age... but i guess i was wrong (according to what you said)

[Hopefuldreamer8]

In my experience, no. I'm hoping for a change when I'm out of my 20s.

[Dєѕιвσу]

Good take.
I observed that Insecurities will reduce naturally as one ages. If you notice, it is generally problem for teenagers where life takes a new phase and near excitement of being near to adult hood and dealing with people including relationships.
Once you cross 30's, people stop giving damn about their looks and their impression in a society.

[zombiebabe]

thanks! i really hope insecurities will fade with age

[Dєѕιвσу]

Yeah... because you will have so much to do other than handling insecurities. Insecurities exists but one tends to be comfortable with it.
Just look at your mom for once. Do you find her going mad because of her looks now? Do you find her looking at mirror regularly all day? I am sure NAH! Very comfortable of getting old. Doesn't matter what people think of her. Right?
Man... she has a daughter to be taken care of now. :)

[zombiebabe]

LOL but she still looks at the mirror regularly :)

[Dєѕιвσу]

Haha... women are hard to understand at times.
But i bet.. you beat her in this mirror competition hehehe

[zombiebabe]

LMAO

[muspelhem_5]

I think being kind to yourself is good, but also that it may have to be tackled at a deeper level.

Because often it's an autonomous nervous response to certain stimuli. So you have to desentisize yourself totally to those stimuli and teach your autonomous nervous system that they're safe.

[zombiebabe]

any ideas how to desensitize myself?

[muspelhem_5]

One thing I noticed that worked for my social anxiety is simply to socialize over a long period of time, sort of like a marathon. So e. g. I get social anxiety when going out, but if I went out and stayed out till the next morning and maybe slept over and hung out the next day, it would diminish and I would start to feel safe with those people and maybe less scared of other people too.

[zombiebabe]

for me its a bit different
its like i feel comfortable around other people but its just that i have very low self confidence

[muspelhem_5]

Could you elaborate?

[zombiebabe]

like i don't think i'm good enough (reason why i chosen the first pic)

[muspelhem_5]

At what?

[zombiebabe]

i was an ugly duckling... i got better but still think that i'm not attractive enough?

[muspelhem_5]

Oh, okay :)

Like, the only things you can change about your appearance really are health and grooming, and I think they're both connected to how happy you feel, because if you feel happy, you have more energy to make healthy choices and do a little grooming.

So in that case I think you should focus on loving yourself. Just like you wrote in your own Take. I'm just watching this, it's pretty good:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7XFLTDQ4JMk

Also check out 7) in this article:

https://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/07/willpower/

[zombiebabe]

thanks ! k i will

[muspelhem_5]

Take care :D

[LittleSally]

Yep. Good take - I agree on all of it.

Some things that happen really do have an effect on the whole rest of your life and there's nothing you can do about that really...
But try to stay positive and be patient. =)

[zombiebabe]

thanks for your opinion :)

[PeachSunset]

Hey! I liked your take, I actually posted a recent one explaining how society works and how its built around physical appearance and how it tirggers so many insecurities! You should read it! We think alike :-))

[zombiebabe]

thanks :) i really like your take too :)

[dangerDoge]

Thanks for the great take! Concise, organized well, and to the point. It will be a nice piece of reference material when dealing with future GAG questions on here. :D

[zombiebabe]

thanks :) i hope so too

[chris07]

Lol I wouldn't have an issue with my looks or being 5'6 if others didn't treat me like crap for it ha I'm seen as less of a person and unattractive because of things I can't control so I admit I'm a little insecure :/

[zombiebabe]

oh i hope you'll be able to overcome your insecurities

[phanindra554plus]

good take that people have to understand that everyone have insecurities and try to help them if possible but not insulting them.

[zombiebabe]

thanks for your understanding and opinion!

[phanindra554plus]

your welcome :-)

[SuitAndTie]

One of the better takes I've read on this site. I can definitely relate to all the points you've made.

[zombiebabe]

thanks!

[UglyGuyCaliStyle]

My insecurity comes from constantly moving around not knowing people and my looks

[zombiebabe]

sorry to hear about that

[emmaneedsaawnser]

this is off topic, but I think I have body dismorphia. and this post is really interesting!

[zombiebabe]

thanks!

[RainbowFanGirl]

I feel insecure all the time. :(

[zombiebabe]

i know this feeling man.. you're not the only one :(

[Ashely_Princess]

Thanks for this awesome take! :) :D

[zombiebabe]

you're very welcomed :) :)

[PhiOmega]

Really nice take

[zombiebabe]

thanks

[PhiOmega]

Welcomed :)

[_Zara_]

Nice take :)

[zombiebabe]

thanks :)

[shay47]

I got an idea, fix your insecurities.

[zombiebabe]

you think its something which can be fixed as desired? seriously?