My Insecurities

[YvanKarma]

Just a short myTake

I actually wanted to do this as a question, but figured what i had written would be a bit too much to have as a question related topic.

Feeling insecure because of not being good enough, or knowing you'll ever be good enough. Feeling insecure because of not being good looking enough.

I don't have a strong facial structure compared to the likes of Jensen Ackles, The Hemsworth brothers, Henry Cavil, or any other bright looking face. We all know that a good looking person gets treated better or looked upon better, gets more opportunities and or special treatment most of the time.

I don't have a face where girl/women would say wanting to wake up to everyday

I don't have blue eyes, or green eyes, or straight long hair, nor am i white, for rocker/metal girls to obsess over lol

I'm no photogenic, to where i get many likes if i post a pic. even though i honestly don't care about likes and such, but having x amount of friends or followers and barely getting any, compared to someone who probably has the same amount as you or less but still gets more, does kind of make you feel some type of way lol

It's almost as if being/feeling ugly seems to be the source of all my problems, mainly my depression 🙄

This is the first time i ever expressed this in such details, something i don't do because i stopped talking about my personal problems a long time ago. But this is to show you that no matter how much you see someone laugh, or be active daily or whatever, you never know what they may go through or how they feel.

[boggboss]

Yo my man you know I keep it real and to be honest there is nothing wrong with your face you hair is top notch and from what I have seen on here your personality is off a alright guy yes you may not be the standing bed in off what tv shows to be attractive but that matters not beautystanderds mean little when there is so much choice out there you would not carry the facial features you do if you was incapable off attracting a female from birth we start as biological winners except for random mutations that may occur but even then you stand a chance don't doubt yourself 👌🏽

[YvanKarma]

Well shit, i wish my writing was as good as yours lol. But thank man. Hearing this from another dude was cool, other then to always hear, man up , or get over or whatever else that adds more to the insecurities.

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

This is why I resisted the post-modern world.
I removed my social media, and I try to focus on the content of my being, rather than the superficiality of it. It was driving me crazy.
Your insecurities are normal bro, and if you keep existing within the popular system, they will continue to persist.

Good luck bro, also you dont look ugly
Your hair is glorious brother

[YvanKarma]

Thanks man, but its not something that'll easily go away. But still working on it though

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

Yeah bro, its gonna take time, but I know you will make it. Writing it out, was the first step to overcoming it
Keep it up

[Ordinarygurl_]

You're not ugly you actually look nice good mytakewbtw by the way. I didn't know that guys felt the same way

[YvanKarma]

What made you think guys wouldn't feel the same way? we got feelings to you know lol 🙂 we just don't express as much as women do

[Ordinarygurl_]

Because a lot of guys seem to be full of themselves

[LuvAsh]

U look fine

[LuvAsh]

Lol thanks for MHO😊🤗😊🤗

[mrmog]

As a kid and "young man" I was really cute, girls loved me. But I was too shy to talk back. Then I became really quite cause I started realizing this world is made of shit. people hate and kill each other for no reason. I suffer from depression since I'm 18 or so. And yes, it's getting WORSE every day. And you know what? Since then, I feel ugly, too. It doesn't make any sense cause it's so subjective. I get called hot/average/ugly by hot/average/ugly girls - all 9 combinations exist. It's surely the same for you. And to what do we listen? The ones that call us ugly. Cause the mirror is not our friend. You only see the asymmetries and features you don't like. Ever tried to compare an image of yourself "original" and horizontally mirrored (like cam vs mirror)? Close-up and far away? The same image? It looks sooo different. How you perceive a face heavily depends on how much you're used to it.

LOVE how you say:
But this is to show you that no matter how much you see someone laugh, or be active daily or whatever, you never know what they may go through or how they feel.

You are so right. people WANT to think someone who laughs and is active is in a permanent good mood, cause they're fucking jealous. Did you ever realize people who seem to be happy are called "good looking" way more often than depressed suckers who cannot sit or stand straight and always look like someone just slapped them in the face? Everything regarding "good looking" above average is make-believe. When someone acts as if everybody loves him, people believe him. And assume everybody thinks he looks good. Cause they like him. It's so easy to be a really good looking guy today and an average Joe tomorrow without changing anything but your "body language". Cause people don't think about how a person actually feels inside. Being superficial and then judgmental is just so easy. But you're not the only one who's not superficial. All that fucking shit matters so much less when you realize there are people who actually like personalities. Beauty can really be in the eye of the beholder. That's not just a calendar motto. I know some of these people. (I actually am one of them.) You just have to trust them. Beauty at first glance is unstable anyway. It fades away so fast. Sometimes within seconds when you see him/her from a different angle. Also, the most beautiful lips turn into something disgusting when they speak dumb shit.

Have trust in people you like and who like you. There is no such thing as "not looking good enough" for people who care. More than a few moments of inexplicable and irrecoverable excitement matters the recognition of a person you feel comfortable with. That is beauty. I smile at people I love cause I love to see them, recognize their faces, their wrinkles, birthmarks, eye movements, and everything that shows me it's them. A person looks good when it looks like a person I like. End of story.

But I know that this won't sweep away insecurities. I think it's ok. Being insecure keeps a person thoughtful and perceptive. Embrace your weakness cause it can make you an honest and profound person who will be appreciated by many people who can make you feel better.

[Ornate]

I had to re-read this a few times and think on it... and my question to you is, who taught you that the only thing girls look for is "blue eyes, or green eyes, or straight long hair, nor am i white, for rocker/metal girls to obsess over"? This is absolutely NOT the case. If that is all a quality woman is looking for, I'm sad for her! She's dooming herself to what only looks good at a glance. She will also be missing a solid, seemingly very smart and articulate, handsome man such as yourself.

Here's the trick though - you MUST continue to be yourself, and not morph into what you think girls want. If you turn into someone you "think" some girl wants, you're always going to have to play that role. You'll never be able to be your true self! Everyday you'll have to concentrate on what it takes to be someone else. You'll exhaust yourself. You'll lose yourself.

I know this does not help in the present time, and I too suffer from depression. But, let this reminder to be yourself shine brightly over you... and then sit back and wait. She'll come. <3

[YvanKarma]

No i'm not saying that's all those kind of girls/women are looking at, but at the same time, it is all i see :( and seeing that does make me feel a certain way.

I am always myself, even if i tried to be someone else i wouldn't know how lol

[YvanKarma]

But thank you for the kind sweet words <3

[Ornate]

You're welcome! Lonely sucks, doesn't it? I'm there myself, as well. I have to dig deep to remember that today is just that, just one day. Tomorrow will be here before we know it and we get a whole new day. Be strong, stay yourself!

[Mollynotgemma]

Instead of stating what you don’t have!
Why not tell me all the things you do have!
Remember it’s good to be yourself as everyone is taken!
You should be grateful you don’t look like anyone else!
No one that succeeded in this world was like anyone else!
Don’t doubt yourself!
P. S I’m friends with Henry Cavill! I’ll introduce you if you want! A my school his nickname was chubby Cavill!

[shimmeryns]

Why do you think that way though? Has anyone ever bullied you over your looks?

I honestly don't think you're ugly at all.

[YvanKarma]

No never been bullied over my looks but have been called ugly many times lol. Sometimes someone doesn't even have to say it to you, you can tell by how they treat you or look at you. I may not be ugly ugly, but i myself don't find myself that alluring either. I can barely look myself in the mirror.

[shimmeryns]

I felt really insecure as a teenager, the kind of insecurities I don't like to revisit. I didn't like looking at myself too... I could list down everything I hated about myself back then.

But I grown out of it and I realize there will always be someone for you who will love you with all your "flaws".

[YvanKarma]

Funny, cos its the opposite for me actually. the depression and insecurities started the older i got. It's like my puberty went backwards lol. I come from a low income family so back in my young years i had to walk to school and such, so i got a lot of Sun exposure. Because i was a lot lighter than what i look now.

[Secret6620]

Thanks for sharing your story!!! Very well written. I'm sad you feel this way though 😢😢😢

[YvanKarma]

Its okay. I'm still trying to fight it and get over it

[tonicandgin]

You're not ugly and you have a cool personality. Guess insecurity gets to everyone ':)

[YvanKarma]

Yes, we all have insecurities

[lsjr16]

Hey I feel the same way which causes me to not approach girls, but I am trying to change that but I have a fear of rejection. Just know that it is ok to feel that way and it will work it self out

[YvanKarma]

thanks

[almondcake]

Start a thin lizzy tribute band. You look a lot like Phil. That will get girls around you and build up your confidence

[patrickstarz]

I thought you were Bruce Lee until I clicked on your picture. Chill dude

[YvanKarma]

bruce lee? lmao

[patrickstarz]

From far away

[Nayrr]

You're a cool dude, we all got insecurities

[YvanKarma]

Thank you

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take