My boyfriend is rich and I'm not?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriends family makes a lot of money and mine doesn't. His floors are marble they have nice things and go shopping all the time. His parents would give him 200 dollars just for him to blow on whatever he wants, meanwhile for me even shopping for a new outfit is horrible. They have nice cars. I feel so bad my mom drives a 1999 Cherokee next to their Range Rover and Mercedes.. his family gets to go out a lot, spoil them on the holidays, and travel. My family doesn't get to do any of that, my mom works at night so we can't even go to the movies or go out during the day because she's too tired, lol. While me my mom and my little brother do have nice things, through a lot of hard work I still feel very poor compared to not only my boyfriend but also my friends. They all even have their own cars and it's hard for me to even get bus money lol. I'm grateful for what I have but at the same time I feel so bad. I feel like they see me as a charity. One time his mom kind of rubbed it into my face and I felt horrible she told me I don't have anything to have my attitude, lol.. I didn't show it bothered me because that's the way I am but it hurt me a lot.

[Ghosty]

You won't be able to win his parents for your side easily. It just takes time, and they still will see you as from another class. But the more important thing is that your boyfriend knows that and still loves you. C'mon, if he's not completely in his dreams, then he should understand that him being where he is rich and stuff was about the same chance which got you in your family. He didn't earn anything. You do I guess.
I have more money than my girlfriend as well, even without working. I know money is not important to her, but it doesn't phase me to invite her to dinner/drinks often. We discussed this quite a few times, that she feels bad about it and she invites me for drinks too sometimes, but I openly told her that I was just "lucky" being in such a family, and wouldn't mind inviting her for dinner and stuff so that she can spend her own money (which she earns hard) on personal stuff.

But! as soon as I see that she'd be using it, I'd stop. But I know her well, she's not about money, so it's all good.

Mothers have protective instinct, so she's in some way "thinking" that you're taking the money away from her son, which she thinks should make only him happy. That's the way mothers think, it's not personally against you, it's just all about her son. I can understand that it's very hurtful and mean, but try to see other qualities except money.

[JohnWhilkins]

She's pushing you down because she felt threatened. Your honesty and genuine self is worth so much more in social interactions than their money will ever be. Trust me you stick to that and you stick to it well. If you feel like it sucks that you dont have any money, make a joke and be open about it. You're young too so you have to see this as a process where you're learning to become a better person. Everything you are is still being formed very intensely.

Don't sweat this. That person putting up their ferrari keys on the table "accidentally" is so transparent and less liked than the person that's willing to admit that they're broke and don't even have a car.

[parkway]

His mother is afraid of you and want to get rid of you at any cost.

You say you are grateful but you are not. Stop and think of all the things you have to be grateful for, make a list and feel good about it. Read books on graditude which will change your life and draw only good to you.

There is a reason your boyfriend likes you. The mother hates you because if you get pregnant, it is going to cost them money to support you and the child.

You described things that make them rich and if this is true, money is important to them and this makes them potentially dangerous.

In life there is always a balance, where you are a person of modest means, this position in life can come with a wealth of values. Understand that you are valuable or you would not be in his life and the mother would not be attacking you.

[Anonymous]

1. The way his mom spoke? bitter truth my dear girl but that's how the world is
2. Not everyone has everything. I've seen penury and extreme high class life right from birth
3. I've been accused of being the reason the family was in penury since I was born that year lol
4. I've been with the who's who of the land in parties without a penny in my pocket
5. I've addressed over 200 people while my stomach was growling with hunger and motivated them so much that (more than once) they'd all look upto me for advise etc - all COO/CEO level guys
6. As of your friends, do they keep offering you stuff that you can't afford all the while? If no then there's no need for you to feel belittled being with them (I know the situation and how it feels but when in such a situation one needs to look from the outside to get a clearer picture) :)

[jacquesvol]

People having a big house and expensive car and spending a lot aren't necessarily rich. It could all be financed with loans, which COULD mean they struggle with a mountain of debts they hide carefully.

Only their banker might know.

[Anonymous]

yea I can't read this... just be grateful... people have it a lot worse. There's more to a person than their bank account... character. for example..