He's rich and I'm poor but he doesn't know?

[Anonymous]

I go to a fancy private school under a lot of scholarships and loans, but I have always liked fashion and stuff and go thrifting so I manage to look alright but I am a mess on the inside.

My dad died when I was in highschool and my mom never really took care of me so I was taken away from her and put in a foster home my senior year.

I am now in Manhatten for school on merit scholarships and 10 k a year of loans and I am always trying to work ( act as background on tv shows, mingle with the wealthy kids here help on projects, etc) and it makes me look outgoing.

So this guy has no major aspirations because his parents own a well known studio and he can do what he wants. I have to worry about supporting myself all the time, and I know guys in college are concerned with getting laid and relationships dont make or break them.

We are very different, but i hate that he doesn't have huge goals (he's rich already) and he can't comprehend that people are poor. I can't afford to visit home on holidays,(i told him i just stay to stay though) and he is like oh grandparents give gifts with so much money, my grandma is very poor..:/

How do I break this to him? That I have a pathetic life although I smile all the time and "I'm so friendly". I feel like he would never understand me or care about me or even know how haha

Updates

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Oh and he has been after me for about a year now, but I dont kiss him or anything, I mean I assume its gonna end and I spend most of my life on my own... And the funny part is that his family is really close, I only talk to my grandma and cousin.

[madhatters4]

well first off this statement... "and I know guys in college are concerned with getting laid and relationships don't make or break them." this is a very unfair statement to make across the board

as for the rest. I think unless it comes up or your relationship requires this disclosure you don't NEED to bring it up. but that said you could just start discussing your life with him, where you're from and family situation. I imagine that it will become fairly clear that what your economical background is like.

[Man4DaJoB]

who said being rich/poor decide if you are happy or no.
just be yourself if he don't like you then he doesn't deserve you plus personality is more important than money so as long as you are friendly you are fine

[kool_ass_lady]

You need to figure out if you are serious about him, if you are then you are going to HAVE to be honest with him and tell him your story. If you are not serious about him, then you need to let him go.

Figure out if your serious about him = meaning you actually like him and want to be with him and continue seeing him FOR WHO HE IS.

[Asker]

I really dont know, I wish I knew more about him because I do like him so far. We have been hanging out a little but you know how you meet someone and there's social rules of how deep you can go? I tend to like real people, but its like he has this macho thing that doesn't let me get to that... but its we've only gone out 2-3 times now... makes it not so easy.

[kool_ass_lady]

Yeah well decide if you think he is perfect or if you think you may feel like you need someone more wholesome and understanding. I judge men within the first couple dates and if I feel I deserve better I let it go before it goes on too long and I start to get stronger feelings.

[Asker]

Yeah that's smart, I mean it's interesting because he does like spoken word pieces that seem a like they are deep, and then he doesn't comment on them when i try and ask about them. I think I will break a bit of my story to him and ask what he thinks, maybe the just on my own part or something... and I'll see how he is then. Its like he's good at talking about news world affairs and stuff and passionate about it, but his lack of goals... not to good. I want to start a foundation for kids like myself when I am older, that is my goal, but he's like doing technical things in film?:/

[MaskofInsanity]

I mean, just be honest. If that turns him off, then who cares? But I think he may surprise you, and maybe you'll open his eyes to the things he's ignorant about.

[kool_ass_lady]

^ agreed

[Anonymous]

I can guarantee you he knows you ain’t that rich. I grew up quite well off. Well I don’t know what people call rich. My dad didn’t make millions per year. But he made about 800k a year.
i live an average lifestyle now. And work an average job. Most people don’t know I grew up quite well off. Because most people have no idea how to identify someone who came from money, especially if they are hiding it a bit.
but i do.. I can tell the subtle differences. I promise you he probably already can tell your not as rich as you try to be.
So just speak your truth. He probably already knows.