My Step-Dad hit me with a belt?

[Anonymous]

My mother just recently started dating since the divorce. And she's been dating a guy ( lets just say his name is rick) and i was doing hw and he told me to do the dishes and i said no im doing my hw (Mind you we never talk) and after raising his voice i ignored him and a few seconds after that He Struck me with a Belt!!! IM 17 NOT 6 and my mother chose Him over ME!!! I don't know what to do. I sure as hell hit him back tho but i really wanna get out of this house. I have a lot of family in the town i live in so i was considering staying there. Help?
#StepdadsGetNoLove 😡😡

[Prof_Don]

Why did u defiantly tell him "no" when he is an authority figure under his control?

Why did u intentionally ignore him when he raised his voice after u defied him the first time?

LMAO and u hit him back? You'll lucky u weren't pummeled and seriously injured.

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This is why ur mom took his side over yours.

Yes she may have felt hitting u with a belt crossed the line... but she (rightfully so) finds YOUR initial disrespect, as the source of the whole conflict.

Yes he could go to jail if u tell the cops... but your mom will be emotionally distanced from you for quite some time.

Trust me,. if ur mom is the spiteful type, she will "get revenge" by simply doing nothing more than the basic legal minimal requirements she has to as a parent to take care of u, then she'll kick u out at 18 and you'll be fucked.

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Is it really so hard to speak tactfully to an authority figure when asked to do something?

YOU could have prevented all of this.

[Asker]

She should never take some jack asses side over her childs tho

[Prof_Don]

She shouldn't take any one's side blindly.

She probably gave him a tongue lashing in private about how he shouldn't hit you... parents always seem to do these parenting talks out of sight of the child in question.

Don't feel like she didn't address him hitting you... because I'm almost certain she did.

But that doesn't make your unnecessary disrespect towards your stepdad (an authority figure your mother put in charge) any less foul.

[decemberxblue]

Great post, I agree 100%.

[Prof_Don]

For some reason a lot of users here on GaG have unfortunately been victims of abuse in some way (physical, sexual, mental, emotional, etc.)

So you won't get an objective view by many of the users here because they are blinded by being a victim of abuse themselves.

[Dalona]

He's not her father - just her mothers NEW boyfriend, and it's okay for him to discipline? Are you kidding me? There's obviously something very wrong with her mother for letting him know this was okay to do. If my mothers new BOYFRIEND hit me in anyway I'd sure as hell defend myself too, how dare he. I'd sure as hell let my ACTUAL FATHER know as well.

[lace1228]

I agree with@Prof_Don on this one. This generation of children are the worst and it is because parents are afraid of disiplining their children therefore are raising little assholes who have no respect for any adult. My children do not disrespect me or their father or anyone else.

[Asker]

Im not little and im not an ashole this wasn't the first time he was rude to me and my mother. Im 17 and i told him i was busy. Thats being an asshole? mhh i never knew

[Prof_Don]

Saying "no" to an adult telling you to do something is defiance.

Next time word your reply without using the word "no" in your response, to prevent conveying disrespect.

[parkway]

If his hitting you was battery, he could possibly be in some deep poo. If it is a small town, he may get a pass but in the city, he goes to jail.

I don't know the guy and do not like him. He is a weak man because he needs to get his way. If he wants the dishes done and he asked you twice, then he should have done them, instead he made things worst. He is weak because he feels that he is above you like a parent. Your mom sounds like she is desperate for this buy., sad. Somehow this guy feels he can afford to have enemies.

[Dalona]

It's not a step parents place to discipline at all, especially a new boyfriend. If he had a problem with you he should have told your mother an let her handle it. She's the actual parent after all. Good for you for hitting him, I would've done the same. Who does he think he is? He's just your mothers boyfriend, which doesn't even count as a step parent since they aren't even married. He should stay in his place.

[lace1228]

He sounds old school. When he was younger it would be pretty common practice of disipline. Not saying what he did is right but talk to him first. Your almost an adult so do what an adult should do. Then if anything see about staying with family until you can get your own place.

[enigmatta]

Stay with them and let them know that not only you but also your mother might be in danger of an abusive man. Talk to your mom about it and if she won't hear you, then let the police handle this situation if your mom will be irrational and enabling this guy.

[enigmatta]

stay with your relatives, not your mom and this douche*

[SnowHearth]

Is your mother married with him or not yet?
If the answer is "no," then he has no authority to do so. You are not his child, and never will.
On the other hand, your mother is being irresponsible for letting him to hit you.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

No step-dad or even real dad belongs hitting a child with a belt that is child abuse
you should of got on phone call the police there is not dam thing your mother could do
the police would of took both of them but mainly him for hitting you with belt.

[BrightEyesRemember]

Is his real name Brad? my father did this exact thing a lot to me and my sister when we were children. He keeps marrying new women and treating their kids like shit and then running out with their money and a bunch of their shit. He's an ass. If this sounds like it might be him let your mom know and try to get her to end shit ASAP. If she won't then get out of their and protect yourself from his shit. It only gets worse.

[RPGamr]

Threaten him with police action if he tries to physically abuse you again. I'm seeing signs of danger, even for your mother.

[Jakesusername]

I agree with you!

[Azara]

get out. press charges. he should not be encouraged.

[justyournormalguy]

I feel!!! I have a stepdad that I don't like
He is a bipolar asshole

[Cass949494]

No, you don’t get to hit an beat your kids, cause you horny and opened your legs. They didn’t ask to be here. Have a little sense, some patience, don’t react like an abusive robot, and your kid will learn. You probably whoop all over your kids.

[Anonymous]

I'd just leave. My step dad hit me for not doing the dishes funny enough. So I walked up stairs and smacked him in the face with my baseball bat and moved out. Fuckn take that

[brxnda]

lol gurll , move out!