Why do girls talk about their ex boyfriends when on a second date?

[Anonymous]

i went on a second date with a girl and she is interested in me and I am interested in her but she keeps talking about her ex boyfriends and she talks about her girlfriend wants to set her up with this guy is she trying to make me jealous or what kind of response is she looking for and last night she told me about this guy that lives in California that told her to fly out there and he would marry her and have a family with her why is she saying this to me when we both are interested in each other and I know she has been hurt from her last boyfriend and I tell her I won't hurt her but she won't believe me so I said let me prove it to you what do I do I need help and I really like her she has everything I am looking for in a woman

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i have talked to three people about her and one of them was the one who introduced us what I told her she has all the values in a woman I am looking for but one of my friend said she needs to stop dwelling on the past and she is insecure with her self

[bobair]

Things you're doing wrong:

1) You're jumping through her hoops like a lost puppy dog... She puts p a challenge (by saying, "My last boy friend hurt me so you likely will too.") and you go out of your way to pass her test (by saying, "I won't hurt you, please let me prove myself.")

2) You say, "She's everything I'm looking for in a woman" which makes me believe she's either really hot, or you're really insecure. How good can she be if she's making jump through hoops, and who's already trying to make you jealous by the second date.

Avoid this woman at all costs OR be a man and stop jumping through her hoops. These tests she's throwing at you are easy to pass... ignore them. When you try to prove yourself you're simply telling her that you have no value.

A man of value already trusts his worth and has no time to bother proving it to some chick she's just met.

How can you think she's EVERYTHING YOU'RE LOOKING FOR by only the second date? You don't even KNOW her yet. This means all you're seeking is an outershell... a superficial ball buster.

If she's testing you this hard by the second date then you've already lost.

The best thing to do is ignore her tests, ignore her stupid comments about other men, laugh at them because you can see right through her bullsh*t, and don't waste your time with a third date.

She's a lost cause. Don't chase women who don't want to be caught... that's a great way to feel less like a man each date.

~ Robby

My Blog ( Full of Hate and Ready to Date .com link )

[ArtistBboy]

This guy is a GOD. Listen to his advice, it helped me with my situations.

[bobair]

Haha! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Update: I have talked to three people about her and one of them was the one who introduced us what I told her she has all the values in a woman I am looking for but one of my freiend said she needs to stop dwelling on the past and she is insecure with her self and when she calls tell her do you want to see me and if you do then thier will be no more talking about any other men and if she doesn't then you move on with life

[SarahLawStudent]

She is trying to get you jealous. By saying how many other guys are interested in her she's trying to show you she's "hot" in the market, and lots of other guys want her - in the case you dont.

I'm guessing she's not sure yet how you feel about her, show her she is ALL you want and that you care for her and she will stop making those comments.

[rachael19]

i do the same thing,with me its because I just want to see his reaction see if he's got the same opinions and views my ex had and c if he really cares abowt me,tend to look him straight in the face wen I talk bowt my ex but every girl is differnt

[vrana]

she 's trying to make you jelaous