It's hard to imagine a girl liking me?

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to make of this. I'm 21 and for the last year or so I've tried for the last year or so, asked out a couple people on dates, and it always seems like I'm the one doing most of the work (probably because these girls always have low interest). It's just...reading all these other questions asking girls the signs they give to guys when they're interested in them...I just can't imagine a girl liking me. It seems like no girl is willing to go with a guy who doesn't party or dance or drink. I have other things to offer, but it seems that they make little impact and aren't memorable, even though I think they are. I'm pretty sure no girl has ever had a crush on me and all the girls I've met seem to not care all that much about me.

[Limpbiscit]

focus on things you like doing... get out there and forget as much as you can about your thoughts on this... enjoy yourself and be as happy as you can possibly be... talk with girls with similar interests without any thought of hitching up and if you are interested in a girl don't show you are interested in a sexual way until you start getting to know her better and let her get to know you.

Don't show interests in a relationship till you feel she appreciates you being around and 'wants' you around because she has an unexplainable attachment to you.. then start to tease her a little.. in a pleasing way.. in a way to have her aware that you are interested but not too interested to go all the way if she is not willing to meet you half way.

Good luck... hope things go better and that helps in some way.

[angelica3]

you have to have confidence. confidence is sexy, and girls are attracted to confidence. don't feel negative about yourself because that won't get you anywhere. don't be overly-confident because that's a turnoff. but don't think of yourself as a loser or that's what you'll come off as. if the girls you've been asking don't want to go out with you just because you don't dance/party/drink, then you're asking the wrong girls, if that's not what you're into. don't sweat it. you just haven't met the girls who share the kind of focus that you have yet.

[Littletad]

If you keep being this negative, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten.

[purenblemishless]

My boyfriend tells me all girls are shallow, but we're not all shallow. Yeah we all have different tastes when it comes to guys as well as other things, but don't feel rejected because a few wrong girls aren't interested in you! I am sure you have so MANY qualities that girls will love! Go do things you love to do and I guarantee you that you will find the right girl in that crowd! :) Hope I helped!

[jackie21]

There are plenty of girls who don't like to party and drink! maybe your just not looking in the right places. Have you tried getting friends to set you up?