He deleted me off his Facebook.

[Anonymous]

We had sex, then his girlfriend found out. (his best friend told her) - then she asked him about it, he denied, she asked me. I tried avoiding it but she knew the details, since the best friend had told her so I regrettably admitted to it. then I messaged him and told him she'd asked me, and that I'd let her know. he didn't respond to my message, and I was removed from his fb. him and his girlfriend are still together.

do you think his girlfriend made him remove me, or that he chose to delete me?

[ilyurbella]

Okay. First off - HE HAS A FREAKING GIRLFRIEND. Look, my boyfriend basically did the same thing to me with his ex. I MADE him remove all contact with her because we still wanted to be together like we were for over the past 2 years. He made a mistake just like everyone else and he was trying to make it up to me. Move on. You're the type of girl that will probably will get murder some day from doing that to the wrong girl. Just go jump of some bridge. Do you understand how much pain you just caused that girl? I bet you don't. Do you understand how much angry and how much she's probably been crying? No, I bet you still don't. You don't know how much of an awful person you are to caused that to someone's relationship. Well I know karma will get back at you someday and I hope it gets back at you well. Seriously just grow up.

[Asker]

Ha, wow. I love your unnecessary anger, when I wasn't even aware that they were dating until his girlfriend messaged me and told me.

[ilyurbella]

Yeah, well girls like you really p*ss me off

[Asker]

Not really sure why. I'd understand you being p*ssed if I knew they were dating. I was unaware, that's a completely different story. Plus I doubt she was that angry, as she is still dating him. I would never stay with a cheater. Staying with someone like that, just says it's ok to cheat again.

[ilyurbella]

You never said you didn't know he had a girlfriend. so yeah, sorry about that. you should have make that an update saying that you didn't know he had one. and that doesn't mean anything if she was angry or not. I stayed with my boyfriend because I loved him and I was beyond p*ssed. and staying with someone because they did it doesn't mean it's okay to cheat again. I put my boyfriend through hell just like he did with me and we're still together after that.

[Asker]

It's okay. I'm just surprised they are still together. Because he showed obvious disregard for her and her feelings. The cheating was done in front of his best friend and his brother. I just find it hard to forgive someone who would publicly cheat on me. Plus she told me she called that night, when his best friend told her he had someone over. The guy had told me it was just "someone bitching" and went back to having sex with me. That, I find hard to forgive.

[grnfiori]

He deleted you because you told her...if you still want to have intimate relations with him (I recommend that you don't), then you shouldn't have told his girlfriend because now he's got more probs with his girlfriend (who he obviously wants to stay with).

[Asker]

I thought that could be it. But his best friend had told her what happened, because she messaged me and said she'd heard I had sex with him. So I eventually admitted to it. But yes, that could be why. I should have ignored her message, but what's done is done. She still kept me on her friend list though.

[grnfiori]

I think you should stop thinking about what went on, like: "who told who?" "i didn't know they were dating..." blah blah blah because it's not helping YOU. Just forget about it, this kind of sh*t happens all the time, so don't beat yourself up over. You're young, this is just another lesson to be learned. I recommend finding a guy who respects YOU, no drama, no hiding arnd...remember, don't get hung up on some guy who doesn't return your feelings (you'll just draw out the pain). Live ur life ;)

[Asker]

Yes, I know that I am obsessing. I only hung out with him that one night, so I don't know why I care so much. I guess I am just disappointed that he didn't provide me with an explanation.

[grnfiori]

Yeah, I understand...just hang in there and try to hold out on the sex part at least until several dates. Just ignore the loser because he doesn't have an explanation lol his only reason is because he thought you were hot & wanted someone besides his girlfriend (in fact, his girlfriend should leave him because he didn't tell her on his own due to feeling guilty). Just distract yourself with working out, going out with friends, or even date (single guys! lmao).

[Masiah]

hey...girl..u and littletad had some problems...cool down guys. Well I think his Girlfriend has already told you what she thinks about you now..."a whore"(sorry, didn't mean anything offensive). So obviously she don't have any reason to think good about u. for her, you are a very cheap. And as you just wanna know that what other's could think. Her Boyfriend would probably thinking that he shouldnt have done all that or may be that "why did you told her all truth". He can't think anything bad for you bcoz he is also one of the CULPRIT:). So his best friend is a dumb ass. I mean what the hell he needs to tell her about it. Whatever, now it's all done. I would suggest you that just don't think much about it and if you can say sorry again to his Girlfriend then do it. It would be good. Rest in peace.

Take care

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. I had apologized to his girlfriend numerous times about it, as I had been unaware that they were dating. She still called me a ho and didn't buy the fact that I didn't know they were dating. I messaged him and told him she'd confronted me, already knew what happened, and didn't appreciate being involved in his drama when I wasn't aware he was with someone. But yes, it's over with now, and I have been stressing about this for the past few days, but hopefully can move on.

[Masiah]

hey...actually anything is possible. It might be her girl friend and himself, who choosed to delete u. But actually he didn't have any choice now. I think if she is still behaving nicely to you then just don't do anything weired now. And try to avoid him, so that the couple can make out better future. I just hope that you are not in love with him.

take care

[Asker]

She is not behaving nice to me. She hasn't said anything since she messaged me on Facebook. She had heard that I slept with him, and wanted to know if it was truth. So I confirmed it, then she promptly called me a ho. I am still on her friend list, though was removed from his and my message to him went unanswered. I don't know if he's upset that I told his girlfriend it was true, even though his best friend who was there when it happened, had already ratted him out. Or if she made him delete me.

[Littletad]

Does it matter? Let him go. He obviously chose his girlfriend over you. Did you think he would break up with her? If so, you were severely wrong. Next time try a single guy. Being a home wrecker is not really prideful.

[Asker]

I didn't think he'd break up with her. I am simply asking a question, and was hoping for legit answers, not to be bashed at.

[Littletad]

I'm not bashing, just telling you that if he did choose you, you'd be considered a home wrecker. It goes with the territory. I also said you should let him go. That is advice, not bashing.

[Asker]

I asked for advice on the matter: do you think his girlfriend made him delete me or he did?

[Littletad]

He deleted you to wash his hands, basically, of the whole ordeal.

[Asker]

Yes, that's probably it. Any idea as to why the girlfriend kept me on her friend list? I am thinking to delete her, so I can move past the event. What do you think?

[Littletad]

I see nothing positive in keeping her as a friend. I doubt she's thinking anything friendly when she looks up your page. Letting her see your private profile isn't smart.

[Asker]

I deleted her. And I actually feel a lot better. Thank you.

[Littletad]

Most welcome, and good luck finding someone better.

[Masiah]

Do you love that guy?..or any other sort of feelings..

[Asker]

I don't love him. This hookup just happened on tues, the girlfirend found out that night, confronted me on wed, I was removed from his fb on thur. haven't heard anything else since. I was just curious as to what everyone thought. I did like him though.